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01 August 2007

Anniversary How long have you been with your current partner/SO/spouse/lovuh?
12 years (1995), sorta. We met when we were really young (19, 20). She is German, I'm a Yank. We did the long-distance thing for about a year. Then we sort of cooled it off for a couple of years because it was just too expensive and impractical. We were also both young and horny students and monogamy is dumb when your GF/BF is so far away, so that was a factor as well. We warmed things up a bit in 2000 when she had an internship in NYC. In 2001 I moved to Germany and we've been together since. Maybe we'll get married someday. I've noticed that Americans tend to get married and start popping out kids way earlier than Germans.
posted by chillmost 01 August | 04:21
14 years this Friday, which is also my 39th birthday.

Yeah, I got married on my birthday. I didn't do it so that I would never forget the date of my anniversary... but because it was the only day we could think of (we didn't have much time: the day was approaching when we would again be separated by two very irritating, silly, stodgy, old-fashioned governments).
posted by chuckdarwin 01 August | 04:32
Dear chillmost - we have much in common.
posted by chuckdarwin 01 August | 04:37
hrm. We started dating about mid-Feb 2002 (a month or so after I moved to the USA). So, just over 5 years. We got married in October 2004, which was quick, but was necessary because of the whole green card thing.
posted by gaspode 01 August | 05:59
married, 13 years, been together, coming up on 14 awfully darn soon. We met in August, got hitched the next February. One week she looked at me on a Monday asked if I wanted to get married, I said sure, we where married by Friday. And they said it wouldn't last.
posted by edgeways 01 August | 06:01
gaspode is also married to someone from a different country. Odd.
posted by chuckdarwin 01 August | 06:07
This month (the thirteenth to be exact) I will have been married to my hubby for 24 years.

He's not from another country, but since I am from the South and he is from the West, he might as well have been. ;-)
posted by bunnyfire 01 August | 06:17
Oh, and he has been calling me bunny for almost that long!
posted by bunnyfire 01 August | 06:18
Our fourth wedding anniversary is next week. We've been together for seven years. She's put up with being a step-mom to a teen-aged boy for most of that time, she should get some sort of award for that.
posted by octothorpe 01 August | 06:20
Since Dec. 2000.
posted by Eideteker 01 August | 06:34
17.5 years since we became a couple- unmarried, of course, so's not to upset the church people.
posted by BoringPostcards 01 August | 06:38
Oh, go on BoringPostcards! Let's upset them.
posted by chuckdarwin 01 August | 06:46
If they hadn't changed my state's constitution to lock us out, believe me, I would.
posted by BoringPostcards 01 August | 06:51
7 years as a couple this coming Memorial Day. Married for going on two years this September 10.
posted by tr33hggr 01 August | 07:20
Similar to tr33hggr, but a different season. 7 years as of last May, 2 years married (we married each other, no witnesses, we did it for us, deeming ourselves the only necessary officiates - we ain't waitin' on the gubmint yes-you-can, no-you-can't roller coaster) this coming october.
posted by chewatadistance 01 August | 07:33
You know, Boring Postcards; that sort of let's-allow-Leviticus-18-to-influence-policy BULLSHIT really, really, really, REALLY chafes me.

I don't like it when fundamentalist thought creeps into government. Not in America or anywhere else, for that matter.

The United Kingdom may not be the most enlightened country on the planet, but at least it has bestowed basic civil rights for all its citizens on this issue.

It didn't even make the front page when it passed. Everyone just nodded and said "Fair play."
posted by chuckdarwin 01 August | 07:34
12 years.
posted by jonmc 01 August | 08:04
Gosh, I'm the newly-whatever here: just over two years.

Each of us was partnered/married before, his ending in divorce and mine in death (um, my partner's --- not mine). We were already in our mid-thirties when we started dating, though we'd known each other casually for several years. And I'd had a big crush on him for just as long.

Coincidentally, I have been going from one crisis to another since our second date (my father's end-of-life care and death, a series of health crises, and most recently an injury sustained from a car accident), and The Fella has been so cheerful and solid and unstintingly kind throughout. It's unlike me to accept so much from anyone, and I'm doubly grateful for him.
posted by Elsa 01 August | 08:12
Started dating 8 years ago, married for 4.
posted by cobra! 01 August | 08:40
Another green card marriage here. Denmark's pseudo-fascist immigration laws wouldn't grant residence permit to my American girlfriend, so we got married on two weeks notice, had two days of honeymoon, and then had two wait three months in different countries for the papers to process. We've been married almost exactly two and half years now, and I've been in the US two years-ish (time flies). And it's all good.
posted by AwkwardPause 01 August | 08:46
We started dating Nov. 11, 2002, so it's coming up on 5 years. In high school, my mama told me that I'd probably marry the first guy I dated in college, but she was so wrong - I'm marrying the second guy I dated in college.
posted by muddgirl 01 August | 08:47
We've been married 12 years...if we could go back, I'm not sure we'd "marry". This is for two reasons. One is because we're not so sure what the institution is about, and two, because we have come to realize that we don't want something that other loving couples aren't allowed to have.

So yeah, we've been together for almost 14 years, married for 12.
posted by richat 01 August | 08:52
We've been together for 14 years. This December we will be married 9 years.
posted by LoriFLA 01 August | 09:07
Together for 14, married for almost 11.

Christ, I'm old.
posted by jrossi4r 01 August | 10:24
Married for 22 years, together for 24.
posted by It's Raining Florence Henderson 01 August | 10:44
Together 8 years, then an 18-month intermission, then together for 18 months, then married, 18 years ago. So, awhile. Holy Crap, I'm Old!
posted by danf 01 August | 10:54
Together for 10 years, married for 6.
posted by plinth 01 August | 12:04
We've been together 3.5 years and will be married next June.
posted by viachicago 01 August | 12:12
Five years ago in two weeks. Also an international couple (.us/.ca)
posted by ROU Xenophobe 01 August | 12:37
Aw. This thread makes me happy. And hopeful. Even though I've pretty much come to an acceptance of the fact that it's likely I'll be single for the rest of my life (that's not whinging, just looking around at, for example, my mother's friends and older women that I know). At any rate, mazel tov to you all.
posted by jokeefe 01 August | 12:48
Nine years for us.
posted by arse_hat 01 August | 13:24
Five years married come November, and about three years together before that. Hooray!
posted by eamondaly 01 August | 14:03
Coming up on 12 years, although she still refuses to marry me. I'm the one from a different country in this case.
posted by dg 01 August | 15:45
Not long enough. It's never long enough when it's real.
posted by mightshould 01 August | 16:24
Together 7.5, married 6.5.

We're also a cross-border couple (the mister is Canadian). We wouldn't have married if it hadn't been the simplest solution for us to live together in Canada.
posted by deborah 01 August | 17:49
Together 10, married for 7 (got married in 2000 so it's always easy to remember which anniversary is coming up).
posted by Mitheral 01 August | 18:01
Together almost 4 years now. The current plan is for us to be married next June.
posted by lilywing13 01 August | 21:30
Although we have discussed marriage there is an issue of the last name. My last name is Russell and it is very close to the German word for elephant's trunk, Rüssel. She is not really keen on changing her name to Mrs. Elephant Trunk. She's welcome to keep her maiden name but if we were to have kids, she thinks they will be ridiculed on the playground. While this might be true, I think it will make them tough in a "Boy Named Sue" kind of way. Of course, if it's a boy, that means I'll have to leave her and then someday confront my son in an old western saloon as he tries to kill me. But in the end it will all work out.
posted by chillmost 02 August | 02:30
17 years here, living together; we have our 10th wedding anniversary next month.

As to the name issue, it's funny that it's much, much easier for me to use my Greek husband's last name than my family name, which is a very ordinary German last name, but difficult for Americans. Unlike most multi-syllabic, difficult Greek names, my husband happens to have a very short, easy family name, that I also think sounds kind of cool. nevertheless, I don't recommend seeking a Greek mate in order to acquire an easier last name. :-)
posted by taz 02 August | 04:33
Met as blind dates in July 1999. Married five years this September 22nd. Second marriage for both of us - both firsts ended in divorce. We have my two sons and his daughter and son living with us (three of them are teenagers!!) It's been rocky here and there, and definitly a challenge at times. But I can honestly admit that I've never loved anyone this strongly ever before, or felt this connected. I'm planning on being married to him forever.
posted by redvixen 02 August | 08:20
Happy Birthday to goodnewsfortheinsane!!! Happy Birthday to lonefrontranger!!!! || Mama, come on baby, tell me what's the word?

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