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15 July 2007

My uncle with brain cancer died. Services are in Tucson, AZ on Wednesday. I've spent the last three hours trying to coordinate flights and hotels and cars for my mom, sister and myself. I'm exhausted.→[More:]
Everyone's coming from a different city, and my sister has just decided she can't afford it. I just want to feel better. I didn't get to see him between diagnosis and when he died. I feel bad about this. It happened too quickly. I can't stop crying. Flying last minute is so expensive. I am going to miss the Chicago meetup on Thursday. And I have to cancel the vet appointment for the bunny. And I have to tell work I'm only working Monday. It has to be done but it's so overwhelming. I can't imagine what my aunt is going through or has gone through these past few months. I need to stop rambling, eat something and have a cigarette.

post by: youngergirl44 at: 18:50 | 20 comments

hugs...

posted by bunnyfire 15 July | 19:17

Oh, I'm so sorry, youngergirl. What a sad, sad thing for everyone involved. You have my prayers, and my deepest sympathy. (((((hugs)))))

posted by redvixen 15 July | 19:42

I'm sorry about your uncle, yg. Sending good thoughts to you and your family.

Don't sweat the arrangements too much. It always works out in the end.

Take care of yourself.

posted by mudpuppie 15 July | 19:42

I've been there, yg. Take strength from your loved ones, incl. the bunnies. And like mudpuppie said, don't stress. The mind tends to freak out at times like this and see every little shift as a huge problem, but it isn't... you'll get there, you'll be fine.

*hugs youngergirl44*

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

posted by BoringPostcards 15 July | 20:40

((youngergirl44))

posted by jason's_planet 15 July | 20:51

I'm sorry for your loss, youngergirl.

posted by gaspode 15 July | 21:23

I'm so sorry, youngergirl. As stressful as all the arrangements may be, I've always found comfort in having something to do in these situations. Maybe you can, too. As for the cost, are you eligible for a bereavement fare? Have you tried calling a travel agent and explaining the situation? Agents can sometimes hook you up with deals you can't find online.

posted by jrossi4r 15 July | 21:33

You can absolutely, positively get a bereavement fare which should be significantly less than a last minute ticket. Call the airline you booked your ticket with, explain to them. Email me if you need assistance with this or anything else funeral related.

I hope you find peace.

posted by ColdChef 15 July | 22:06

youngergirl, I'm sorry for your loss and its suddenness. Thinking of you.

posted by initapplette 15 July | 22:11

youngergirl44 you have my deepest sympathies and all the strength I send you.

posted by arse_hat 15 July | 22:21

My condolences, youngergirl44.

posted by Smart Dalek 15 July | 22:33

I'm sorry for your loss, (((youngergirl))).

posted by deborah 15 July | 22:37

I'm sorry youngergirl.

posted by brujita 16 July | 00:00

Thank you, everyone. I have booked flights and a car. I cannot wait for the day that I am 25 and can rent a car without extra fees and rules. I feel slightly better, but am still exhausted. Time for bed. Thank you again. I love you guys.

posted by youngergirl44 16 July | 00:07

We should commisserate on IRC one day.

My best to you and your family.

posted by Eideteker 16 July | 06:09

It's a very difficult time for you and the family, so good that you can all be together. I'm sure everyone appreciates your taking the helm and making the travel arrangements. The "real word" goes out the window when something like this happens...

Now, take some time for yourself. Breath deeply and nurture your being.

So sorry for your loss.

posted by mightshould 16 July | 07:03

((((yg44)))) better days soon to you.

posted by chewatadistance 16 July | 07:08

I'm sorry to hear of your loss, youngergirl44. These things, so sudden, are hard to process, and the grief can be overwhelming. Share your strength with your aunt, every bit of it, and your memories, and the best smiles and hopes you can muster, too. You can help yourself stand by holding her up, and you can help yourself grieve by catching her tears. Sometimes when you put a caring hand on someone's shoulder, you can feel the same hand on your own. Maybe that's compassion's reward, we heal others as we heal ourselves.

Take care, youngergirll44; condolences on your loss.

posted by Hugh Janus 16 July | 08:40

Wow. I'm so sorry for your trouble, Amanda. Take care of yourself, please.
*Bunnyhugs*

posted by shane 16 July | 11:30

I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself, remember to eat and rest when you can to keep your own strength up, especially if you're driving on unfamiliar roads.

posted by essexjan 16 July | 11:40

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