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DUDE! people can move them one at a time?! i thought it was a package deal. great, now i get to be pissed i can't raise one eyebrow OR one butt cheek at a time.
(In strip clubs jiggling the buttocks in opposite directions (aka 'chuggin' cheeks') is one of the classic moves, and on the right woman, a wonder to behold.)
Now, before anybody gets offended by all the ass-ogling going on in here, I'll have you remember the Unified Butt Theory. It goes like this:
Only straight men and lesbians are interested in boobs and pussy. Only straight women and gay men are interested in cock. But everyone loves a well-shaped ass. Therefore ass admiration is the key planetary unity.
In an aesthetic sense perhaps, but not in the same visceral sense that straight guys and lesbians do.
You know, I actually don't believe that. I've had to evade a HELL of a lot of groping from drunk gay men. One friend actually pouts when I say no, because his other female friends let him feel them up and he thinks it's weird that I won't.
You know, I actually don't believe that. I've had to evade a HELL of a lot of groping from drunk gay men.
Maybe they're bi. Or maybe they're only acting gay to get chicks. Beacuse, if you like boobs, women are usually the go-to-guys, so to speak.
Also, this morning there was an unexplained ladder in the mensroom. Maybe it's time for the Urine Olympics and we're supposed to be peeing for distance and accuracy.
Not quite the same, I think, since women aren't pets.
But the point remains. Breasts are a sexual characteristic of females and an erogeounous zone. If these 'gay' guys are trying to feel your boobs, they're not doing it for the same reason they pet their dogs. I've always been a firm believer that everybody's bi, at least a little bit, and maybe these dudes boobophilia is their bi-ness.
Weren't we talking about asses? How'd we get sidetracked ito boobland, anyway?
But see, jonmc, there's really nothing else in the world that feels like a boob. Nothing that responds the same when jiggled, nothing that can be mushed and petted so softly. I think EVERYONE has a bit of a boob fetish, because for so long most of us were surrounded by the giant bazongas or our mom (to babies, a boob is larger than their head!) For girls, being around our own breasts so much, the fascination has worn off a little, but some guys, gay or straight, have a visceral fascination with breasts that goes beyond sexuality.
I think it's that general feeling of "OH MY GOD MUST PET CUTE PUPPY NOW!", I think. Or "MUST HOLD CUTE BABY" or "I don't care if you're in a bad mood, cat, I MUST SCOOP YOU UP AND CUDDLE YOU NOW." That visceral urge to TOUCH something that appeals to our senses. I don't think it's totally divorced from sexual pleasure, but it's certainly a visceral response that doesn't have to be sexual.
I think EVERYONE has a bit of a boob fetish, because for so long most of us were surrounded by the giant bazongas or our mom (to babies, a boob is larger than their head!)
I was a bottlebaby, and i still love the boobs. I also love bottles, but that's a whole other issue.
Boobs are basically women's unfair advantage in the attractiveness arena. The Unified Ass evens it all out, although men look much sillier displaying theirs in tight pants.
That visceral urge to TOUCH something that appeals to our senses. I don't think it's totally divorced from sexual pleasure, but it's certainly a visceral response that doesn't have to be sexual.
Well, is there a similar phenomenon of drunken lesbians who like to grope the occasional cock, then? That would lend credence, here.
Personally, I have been more attracted to smaller-than-average breasts. Ironically, the woman I eventually married had huge bazongas. This may explain why I ended up screwing our nanny, but that's another story...
This discussion actually cuts to a rather profound question about the nature of aesthetics: To what extent can something be simply beautiful, and to what extent is beauty unavoidably informed by other factors, conscious or not?
But generally, I'm with jonmc. If your gay friend enjoys stroking your hair and giving you foot massages, he may be expressing his affection for you and your cuddliness. If he's feeling you up, he's expressing something else. It would be easier in terms of gender politics to say that's not the case, but truth can be messy.
You've got a society that has completely fetishized one body part that only half the population has, and you see no possible way that those without regular access to said fetishized thing might every now and then wonder what all the fuss is about?
I keep thinking of the quote from High Fidelity (because, really, what can't be reduced to quote from High Fidelity?):
it was as if breasts were little pieces of property that had been unlawfully annexed by the opposite sex--they were rightfully ours and we wanted them back.
Breasts do exist as something other than a straight man's object of desire, hard as it may be to believe ;)
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