Happy family holidays.

and of course now SHE is one of the things wrong with your family, lalala. My condolences.

Kill her now before she breeds and it's too late.

That or invite the whole family to a nice Thanksgiving dinner. With lots of therapeutic ecstasy.

Record Tday dinner and post it on Youtube.

Isn't there an old North American cliche about this sort of behavior? Something about catching more flies with honey than you do with sugar?

Signed,

Learned the hard way

I think her intention is to fix everything that's wrong in my family.

Oh, that's never a good idea.

what? no sticking my cock in the thanksgiving turkey this year?

No. The mashed potatoes however are all yours.

Hi! scarabic. How's it going otherwise? Did you take the job/buy the condo?

well, she has my sympathies. i am in a similar situation, i guess. i finally decided not to accept any more of the festering bile that the broken dynamics of my partner's family generate. no doubt they're saying similar things about me behind my back.

and perhaps she's right. maybe you really need to fix your mess. why do people from outside need to tolerate your shit just because you're in a co-dependent abusive relationship?

instead of making snide remarks here, fix your problems. if they're bad enough to push your brother's wife to the point where she can't take any more, you should be worried. stop blaming the messenger and sort it out.

yeah, there are assumptions here. re-read your post - there are a pile of assumptions there too.

Thanks for projecting your situation onto me, andrew cooke, although yes, I understand your point. If you want to continue jousting at the windmill that is your partner's family dysfunction, good hunting. I think you will probably find that the only change you can introduce into longstanding family problems is to cause explosions and/or force people apart - unless you are really a wizard or psychologist of some kind. If forcing people apart is the solution for you, great.

Everyone needs to fix their mess. That's the human condition. Marrying in and then going around slapping people in the face with judgments and condemnations doesn't get anyone much of anywhere, except into the shithouse. I'll never deny my family is fucked up, but what we DON'T need is another tough-talking truth-speaker to run around pointing fingers in peoples' faces telling them what they need to do to fix their broken lives. I sincerely hope you are pursuing your own situation with more tact (unless, as I said, your true intention is just to hurt people so they never speak to each other again and so conveniently exit your life).