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23 October 2006

Four Brothers. In memoriam... [More:]
Yesterday, Jon and I attended my Uncle Sam's funeral. He was the last of the original four brothers: Leo, the oldest (and my namesake); Sidney, my father; Milton; and Sam, the youngest. They grew up during the Depression in Bridgeport, CT. Their father left the family and married four more times. Their mother moved them all out to Ann Arbor, MI, for college, back when in-state tuition was a hundred dollars a semester, and scrubbed floors to support the family. Leo became a lawyer, and Milton and Sam became doctors (both were doctors in WWII). My father eventually took over his father's factory, manufacturing bedsprings (he never quite forgave his father, though; he hung his picture in the garage).

At the funeral, there were grown children and grandchildren of my Uncle Sam, and even two great-grandchildren, the latest of whom was born just this week. Life carries on. At the cemetery, relatives and friends took turns dropping shovelfuls of dirt into the grave. ("We, as his loved ones, can care for him better than anyone," the rabbi said.) As in the picture from the 1930s, he's between two of his brothers, my father, Sidney, and Milton.

The Four Brothers as young men (L to R: Milton, Leo, Sam, Sid):
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Sam (seated) and Sid (second from left) at Sam & Rita's 50th wedding anniversary:

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posted by Pips 23 October | 14:56
I'm so sorry for your loss, Pips. It's really cool that he got to be a great-grandfather, though.
posted by jrossi4r 23 October | 15:10
I'm sorry for your trouble kiddo.


This weekend I went to a memorial for my father's first business parter. A man of great charm and accomplishment and bizzare habits. It was a little sad and a little crazy and the living were a little too focused on themselves and yet it made great sense and made me realize that all I care to know is that most of the people I know will get drunk and remember me fondly when I die.
posted by Divine_Wino 23 October | 15:23
Hey, Uncle Sam looks even cooler than I'd imagined. You have a great family, and you're great people, Pips. Big hugs again, full of condolences and warm feelings and all that jazz.

Thanks for talking about him. It's strange, but these kinds of stories always make my grandfather feel more alive to me, and I thank you for that.

Keep your sunny side up (and your greasy side down).
posted by Hugh Janus 23 October | 15:31
ONE UP FOR UNCLE SAM!!!!!

(exactly the way I pictured the man, by the way)
posted by Joe Famous 23 October | 15:35
Hoisting one for your Uncle Sam, Pips. I had an Uncle Sam too - weirdly - he was also a doctor! I didn't know him too well. Yours sounds like more fun. I love that pic of the 4 brothers. I'm glad some stories can live on through you and all the grandkids. (((pips)))
posted by chewatadistance 23 October | 17:06
(((pips)))
posted by getoffmylawn 23 October | 18:03
Thank you all for your kind words and thoughts... it affected me more than I realized, I think, my Uncle Sam's death. He looked so much like my father in the end, who died in 1998. I'd never seen my father's headstone (we were living in Miami at the time of the unvailing; in Jewish tradition, the headstone goes up a year after someone's buried). This was the first time I'd seen it, at my Uncle Sam's furneral. I pointed it out to my mom (my adopted mom), and she said, with a snicker, "Yeah, and I'm next." Another reason I'd stayed away so long. She's really the last link I have to my father's side of the family; I doubt I'll see anybody after she dies (they've already stopped inviting me to weddings and such). But this isn't about me. I don't know what it's about really. But I'll miss my Uncle Sam, and it's good to be able to share this with all of you.
posted by Pips 23 October | 18:52
I knew Uncle Sam. He was a man who I never saw have an unkind word for anyone and who was never anything but friendly and good humored in my presence. He also liked his pasta fra diavolo which led me to ask if he had 'a wop in the woodpile.' So, Uncle Sam this one's for you...
posted by jonmc 23 October | 18:56
{pips}
posted by brujita 23 October | 22:21
(((pips))). Treasure your memories, they'll last you a lifetime.
posted by redvixen 24 October | 18:24
Awesomest. Chicken. Ever. || Here I am, 180 degrees from where I once was.

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