Only if you are fighting them off with a stick. If you are a crabby old divorcee like me then desperation is your only friend.

"Breathing? Check. Er ... he'll do."

To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven.

--The Byrds.

No, wait, that's wrong.

--The Bible.

But seriously -- sometimes it's the right thing to stay single; sometimes it's time to get involved. Go with what feels right for you right now.

I'm not beatin' them off with a stick, but I am finding it hard to weed out the "real" ones from the "party time" ones though.

Does that make any sense?

"I'm not beatin' them off with a stick."

Perhaps that is your problem. That stick - it vibrates?

Before this weekend, I'd have said you were right. Stay single, don't bother seeking too hard.

But I hit it off with an incomparable woman who is into me as much as I am into her (and is the prettiest woman I've met) and who likes the same things I do, and we spent the weekend lounging poolside and hanging on each other's every word, so I'd say, shit, man, keep searching. She's out there, and she's perfect, bro.

shit, man, keep searching

gonna find her, been searchin' every whiiich a way...

Sometimes you just need a break from the game of love. Remember, your mojo needs to lounge poolside, have a mojhito and get some sun every once in a while to. It's only natural, if your mojo is overworked and tired no results.

You know what it is. I've been panned for being a little too "outgoing" if you will, so I calmed down a little and began a sort of search.
When that got boring, I tried waiting and that was even worse than searching! lol.

So now I'm right back in Hugh Hef mode and it seems like that's where I belong.
I know it doesn't seem moralistically correct, but I guess everyone has a role in life.
Besides music, I think this one is mine.
Or at least until I see different.

Or until that fantabulous person comes along and makes you want to stop "heffing" around. Nothing wrong with "heffing" as long as you're happy (and you don't break too many hearts along the way).

Nah, I'm not into heartbreaking. That's a player's M.O..
I just love women..period. So much that I let 'em all know exactly where I stand before anything gets too serious. Fuuny thing is they don't seem to understand that I would LOVE serious for a change, but I think it's too late now.

And HUGH! You don't realize that you are the MAN do you?! Congrats, brother!

Maybe try one of these, JF? Seems to have worked for HJ. : )

Gracias, Pips, but I think I'd be better at putting a site like that together as opposed to joining one.

Wanna help? We can call it getchagrooveon.com

LOL.

Awe, maybe just a dab of Mississippi Moonbeam Love Oil or Madame Brigitte Be My Love Slave Oil? If all else fails, there are love doll kits... : )

Hey! That site is actually really cool. Read the "Philosophy" section: who could argue? The priestess is jest sayin' that the steps to finding love are Elimination of the things preventing you from finding =your true love, Saturation of that person with your ardent spirit, and Culmination of your efforts in lasting unity with them?

The only point of disagreement I might have with all that is that it's awfully hard getting that stuff into a vial. But the ideas are right on!

Hang in there, Joe. You're somebody's dream come true, and it'll come your way eventually.

beating them off. heh. with a stick. heh.

I agree with the "let it come to you" philosophy. Until then, there's nothing wrong with being a player, just don't let it cloud things up when someone that's "Fee Times A Mady" comes along.

I just broke my "no casual sex" thing today for a guy who's got so many issues that even after I said I'd stop catting around, even after I told him I *am* looking for a partner, even if we've been having great sex off and on for the last three years...

...he still doesn't want to go beyond "amazingly close friends who are comfortable enough with each other that we can have sex and not be weird about it later"...

...but I am starting to get weird about it, because why would I want to continue having even amazing sex with someone who is afraid of my past sexual history and doesn't want to get hurt because he knows I've cheated on prior boyfriends?

In other words, I understand what you're going through and I can only urge you to hang in there.

And maybe wean yourself off of your pussy posse. ^_^