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12 June 2006

Date Update So, I had my date yesterday. [More:]It was good. Gentle, but good. Everything I had planned was thrown out of the window. I asked B- what time she wanted to meet up and she chose the afternoon so there was little chance for restaurants.

The whole date consisted of the following...
- Cafe.
- Piece Hall (Sandwich and a cup of tea)
- Wander around Halifax
- Sitting in the park.
- Cloudbusting (yeah)
- Drink in a pub.
- Another drink in a different pub.
- Goodbyes.

We hung out for just over six hours. She was more nervous than me. "I'm never asking a man out on a date again", she said "I never realised how terrifying it was. How do men do it?"

There'd been some worries from my part at the beginning of the week. She'd managed to accidently insult my best friend (she's a friend of a friend) and I didn't know if that would be preying on my mind. It didn't.

She has me pegged as this ultra-intellectual. Initially it was extremely worrying, but after hearing some of the crazy things she believes, it's maybe not a bad thing.

"How big is the sun?" She asked.
"Real big." I said. "I don't know exactly though"
"Bigger than Halifax?" she asked.
"Pardon!"
"Bigger than Halifax?"
Yes. It's like thousands of times bigger than the earth. It's really big."
"That can't be right." she says "How can the sun be bigger than the earth if it's in the earth."

Now, I'm not a snob or anything, but that is just wrong.

She's a masseur, just about to start training as a nurse. She has two kids, aged 5 and 9. She may be 34, but I only got that information out of her using the power of mathematics, so I may be wrong.

She's sweet and human. She hates for plans to change. Doesn't like to be late to turn up to things late. She always checks her door is locked three times before leaving the house and she covers left-over food so people can't see what she's been eating. She laughs a lot (or maybe I make her laugh a lot), but dislikes public displays of affection.

We planned to meet up again next saturday. When parting, she said "I don't know what to do mext. Do I shake your hand or what." I gave her a hug and affectionately touched her on the arm. I turned round after crossing the road to see if she was looking over at me before we finally parted. She wasn't.

As I said, we meet again next saturday. We're going to a restaurant next time. I'm going to take a picture of the solar system with me.
"That can't be right." she says "How can the sun be bigger than the earth if it's in the earth."


Danger! Danger!
posted by interrobang 12 June | 02:34
Ah! Well that wasn't so bad. She sounds nice. not exactly a soulmate, most likely, but sweet and kinda silly/funny. There are worse ways to spend a Sunday.
posted by taz 12 June | 02:40
Seanyboy, you are a very sweet man. I'm glad you didn't write her off for being maybe a bit thick about some things.
posted by essexjan 12 June | 02:46
I turned round after crossing the road to see if she was looking over at me before we finally parted. She wasn't.

See, the thing is, she might have already stolen her glance before you turned around. I mean, you had to cross at least two lanes of traffic. That gave her plenty of time.

So don't write it off just on that. The sun question, maybe. But then again, she could have been goofing on you in a really awkward way....
posted by mudpuppie 12 June | 03:08
That's really sweet, seanboy. That conversation reminded me a bit of that girl from Extras.
posted by muddgirl 12 June | 06:54
Thanks for the update, seanyboy. Hafta say I chuckled at the sun/earth comment. But lots of people don't understand spatial stuff and have other strengths. :D

Maybe you guys can hit that divey bistro next week!
posted by chewatadistance 12 June | 08:13
For a second there, that sun conversation sounded like something Douglas Adams would write. But it took a bad turn somewhere. I share interrobang's concern.
posted by tommasz 12 June | 08:56
Oh come on, we're all really stupid about something. If she's unwilling to believe she's wrong, that's one thing- but if she was just uneducated about that one subject, well, who hasn't been there? Geesh, you guys, give the man a break.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero 12 June | 08:59
Maybe she's an unconventional, outside the box (or in this case extremely inside the box) thinker.

I'm going with tommasz and interrobang on this one...
posted by tetsuo 12 June | 09:16
This sounds like a scene right out of a charming, quirky movie. I would keep watching.
posted by Miko 12 June | 09:45
It sounds sweet. . .Putting myself in your place, I wanted another date. . .although I was also wondering at what point disengagement could happen without some hurt to one of the parties. . .

But the first few dates can be so fun, getting to know someone, the subtle little seductions on various levels, etc.

Let us know about the next one!
posted by danf 12 June | 10:02
I know how big the sun is, and where it is, but I don't know what cloudbusting is.
posted by JanetLand 12 June | 10:16
I know it isn't done here, but....

Metachat: we're all really stupid about something.
posted by LarryC 12 June | 10:23
Don't know what cloudbusting is....
Don't worry. It appears that I have no idea either.

What I meant, was we looked up at the clouds and pointed at shapes. I'm sure it has a word, but I'm not 100% what that word is.
posted by seanyboy 12 June | 10:24
But did you indulge in aggressive micky taking?
posted by iconomy 12 June | 10:37
Okay, that sun comment is hard to put into perspective. It's exactly something a five-year-old might pop out with, or a 2-year old. A grown woman with kids? Wow.
posted by Lipstick Thespian 12 June | 10:41
I think you should tell her about your essexjan dream. That will open up all sorts of conversational possibilities, like "What's metachat?"

BTW, you dolt! You are supposed to leave on a train, hanging out the door waving goodbye while she dashes along the platform frantically knocking over pedestrians in her desperate but doomed attempt to never let you go.
posted by warbaby 12 June | 10:53
About the sun comment. I mean....you can SEE the sun, so how could she possibly think the sun is in the earth? She probably meant the core....how big is the earth's core. Yes, she meant to ask "How big is the earth's core".

I like that you're bringing a picture of the solar system with you, seanyboy ;)

So do you like her? Obviously you like her well enough for a second date, which is a good thing. I've never heard a date described as 'gentle' before, so I'm not sure if that's a good or bad thing. Does gentle = uneventful?
posted by iconomy 12 June | 10:54
Maybe she was kidding about the sun. Perhaps she has a really quirky sense of humor.

She always checks her door is locked three times before leaving the house and she covers left-over food so people can't see what she's been eating. She laughs a lot (or maybe I make her laugh a lot), but dislikes public displays of affection.

AWWWWWW.
posted by Uncle Glendinning 12 June | 10:56
Glad it wasn't six hours of torture, some flags but nothing that a good educational date couldn't resolve. Maybe take her to a planetarium or science museum on a future date?
posted by fenriq 12 June | 12:33
"I never realised how terrifying it was."

IME it is the ladies who do the lions share of the dating and tend to be more at ease with the whole scenario.

Is there any chance you could get her to suggest an activity for your next meeting?

'Ultra-intellectual' - well you are a clever one, she is not wrong about that!
posted by asok 13 June | 03:24
She's a masseur, just about to start training as a nurse.

This is good.

The law of large numbers says somebody has to date hollow earth enthusiasts.

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Hell, I once gave a ride to two Heaven's Gate enthusiasts in Seattle. This was long before they all got castrated and developed a taste for Jim Jones-style soft drinks.
posted by warbaby 13 June | 09:44
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