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16 February 2006

OMG Best Man! My best friend just told me he asked his live-in-girlfriend to marry him, and they want me to be Best Man! They are so great together and I am so thrilled!!! →[More:]By the way, this is my *friend* friend, not my other best friend that I talk about here sometimes, who is my "benefits" friend.
post by: matildaben at: 15:32 | 40 comments
I bet you look HAWT in a tux.
posted by jonmc 16 February | 15:33
Yipeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!
posted by ThePinkSuperhero 16 February | 15:38
COOOOL!!!!!
posted by chewatadistance 16 February | 15:40
Happy times!
posted by gaspode 16 February | 15:42
Oh, that sounds fun! Have a wonderful time!
posted by Miko 16 February | 15:42
What does the best man do at weddings, anyway?
posted by cmonkey 16 February | 15:44
Wow. Super-cool.
posted by kmellis 16 February | 15:46
cmonkey: Everything but the bride.
posted by Eideteker 16 February | 15:46
Or, in this case, everything but the bride and the groom.
posted by matildaben 16 February | 15:47
That sounds like a career I could really enjoy.
posted by cmonkey 16 February | 15:50
Congrats, Mats. Being a Best Man requires a level head and the ability to keep things from falling apart, like when rain ruins plans for an outdoor ceremony. You've certainly got that. And I'm equally sure you'll be able to provide the needed emotional support to bride and groom while handling the minor details that they don't need to see under the amount of stress they may be feeling.

(That's the long answer to cmonkey in there somewhere.)

If you are as dorky as I am, you'll throw yourself into it. I did a lot of: "Stand back, I'm the Best Man." and "Best man duties" jokes for everything from getting folding chairs out of the truck during a near-hurricane (I was SOAKED, like shoes and all. Ick.), to handling dishes, to the bride's sore neck (well, I only joked about that one, or it would have been my neck). Have fun with it, keep their minds off stress and on fun!
posted by Eideteker 16 February | 15:53
Yippie! Sounds fun!
posted by sisterhavana 16 February | 15:54
You're the one who decorates the getaway vehicle with JUST MARRIED signs and such... so fun.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero 16 February | 15:54
Woohoo! Congrats, and congrats to them!
posted by agropyron 16 February | 15:59
Don't forget stag films from the Elks Club.
posted by DeepFriedTwinkies 16 February | 16:01
Eideteker, it's strange that you know me so well in that first paragraph. Yes, I am a highly competent control freak with decent emotional intelligence.

Fortunately, at work I've been learning more about how to delegate, so I'll be able to assign some of the duties to other friends who are more competent or more skilled in certain specific areas (e.g., I ain't doin' no decoratin'), so I don't go totally crazy.

I do need to figure out what to wear, though. I'm thinking a dress, something elegant but understated, in a complementary color scheme to my friend's tux (but not black - maybe silver or gray?), so I look distinct from the bridesmaids and don't distract from the bride.
posted by matildaben 16 February | 16:01
Uh, wait, I thought matildaben was a girl?
posted by orthogonality 16 February | 16:04
Whoo hoo! That's too cool, matildaben! :D That'll be fun.

I've been best man a couple of times; the latter time at a wedding where the groom's dad was STILL convinced, despite much discussion, that the groom and I had been "more than friends" at some point in the past. Could have been an uncomfortable situation, I guess, but I found it hilarious. :)

You sound on just the right track with the ideas on what to wear... we want pics!
posted by BoringPostcards 16 February | 16:04
Don't forget stag films from the Elks Club.

you have a disturbing deer fixation, my friend.

Uh, wait, I thought matildaben was a girl?

Very much so. It's a brave new world, dude.
posted by jonmc 16 February | 16:05
You know, some vintage burlesque films would probably fit right in. My future "sister"-in-law totally lives in vintage.

And both the bachelors and the bachelorettes can watch them. It's a brave new world.
posted by matildaben 16 February | 16:06
The Best Man also arranges the bachelor party, and occasionally, bail.
posted by Triode 16 February | 16:08
This has always bothered me:

"Your best friend Harry has a brother Larry
in five days from now he's gonna marry
He's hopin' you make it there if you can
Cuz in the ceremony, you'll be the Best Man."

1. Where are all Larry's friends? Why can't Harry be the Best Man? Is it because he's a transvestite? I have a t-v friend I'm tempted to make the Maid of Honor at my wedding.
2. 5 days? Is this a shotgun affair? An elopement?
posted by Eideteker 16 February | 16:12
you have a disturbing deer fixation, my friend.

Imagine how unhappy the deer are.
posted by DeepFriedTwinkies 16 February | 16:13
You know, some vintage burlesque films would probably fit right in.

[tangent]

God, I love burlesque and neo-burlesque(NSFW). It's so much more playful and human than video porn, which makes it much sexier. And the girls have such style. (NSFW again).

[/tangent]

I have a t-v friend

Eideteker, we discussed this in therapy. The people on television are not really your friends.

Imagine how unhappy the deer are.

Eh, they're horny bastards.

(i could do this all day)
posted by jonmc 16 February | 16:14
Yay, matildaben! Yay, matildaben's friends! Yay!
posted by eamondaly 16 February | 16:16
corrected second burleque link (still NSFW)
posted by jonmc 16 February | 16:18
It's nice to have you back, DeepFriedTwinkies.
posted by matildaben 16 February | 16:20
Ideas for what to wear sound perfect, matildaben. (I had a best man, but you know, they all just wore tuxes... stupid interchangeable formal menswear...)
posted by gaspode 16 February | 16:29
I remember wearing a tux when I was an usher at my sister's wedding. I looked like Lurch.
posted by jonmc 16 February | 16:31
I'm going to need a personal shopper because most formal dresses for plus-size ladies are so FRUMPY!
posted by matildaben 16 February | 16:31
Eid, I've never thought to analyze Bust a Move before. His story just doesn't hold up, does it. (It's still one of my alltime favorite guilty pleasure songs though. Makes me dance all hoochie.)

You are going to be a rockin' best man, matildaben.
posted by jrossi4r 16 February | 16:31
Wear a tux! Think Marlene Dietrich

≡ Click to see image ≡
posted by warbaby 16 February | 16:38
jon, NSFW is the best kind of SFW.

rossi, I'm up for hootchie dancin' whenever. My milkshake brings ALL the boys to the yard, which is why I don't do it very often.
posted by Eideteker 16 February | 16:42
Congrats you and to your friends of course! I came very close to having a "male-of-honor", and applaud the non-traditional arrangement!
posted by krix 16 February | 16:43
'tilda, how expensive would it be to have one made for you?
posted by gaspode 16 February | 17:07
A dress? I don't know. I'm not going to wear a tux. I love the tux look on slender women but I don't like the way it looks on curvy ones.
posted by matildaben 16 February | 17:10
Congrats to 'tilda's friends! And cool on the best man nod. That'd be fun.

Best man also carries the bride's ring on the wedding day and gives it to the groom at the appropriate time. Oh, and I think s/he gives the first toast.
posted by deborah 16 February | 18:37
My best friend asked me to be his best man too. But this was just after I found out that my ex had flown to Austin specifically to sleep with him, and he (best friend) was pretty much trying really hard to win me back. I didn't even go to the wedding, which I only sort of regret.

(But man, I really wanted to be the best man.)
posted by mudpuppie 16 February | 20:01
Eideteker, it's strange that you know me so well in that first paragraph. Yes, I am a highly competent control freak with decent emotional intelligence.

I sense it's a way in which we're very much alike. And yes, delegation is key. In my case, being confident enough to "suggest" things to the groom's family (who I had met once before) smoothed things out quite a bit (they were there days early to help with the setup as they were out of state. Bride's family drove into town on the day-of).
posted by Eideteker 16 February | 20:05
Yeah, a dress.
posted by gaspode 16 February | 20:10
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