Act friendly but disinterested (which, in the romantically Georgian sense means "not particularly invested", not "not interested"). Perhaps tease him about his former success (if he's not too sore about it) and compliment his current endeavor without seeming like a gushing fan. NO GUSHING.

I have a crush on my professor. It grows every day.

Oh come on!! You're just being evil now. Please tell me it's not Donnie Wahlberg, because he is very hot.

If there is a connection why worry about what might go wrong? Jump in. There is no point in sitting around asking what if?

Moonbird, whoever it is, he's just a person.

Remember that.

He's no more a person than you are.

Do not, above all else, bring him back to your house if its a shrine to him, that tends to freak people out, I'm not sure why.

Simon le Bon?!?

Anyway. People mature. Groupies are one thing, real people are another. So, be real. Stay cool. Maybe get in touch and offer to show him around the city, introduce him to a few people, whatever. Nothing ventured, nothing gained -- just be normal.

"that tends to freak people out"

*removes telephoto pictures of fenriq from his flickr site*

"that tends to freak people out"

*removes telephoto pictures of fenriq from his flickr site*

*removes satellite images and phone records of arse_hat from NSA data base*

I'd love to tell you who it is, or even hint more specifically, but my identity is easily known and his is especially way easy to grok if I told you who the band is (especially the current band). I don't want to jinx this. But you're all very much right on- I've only ever hung out with him after the shows he did in town this weekend, so next time I'll try to catch him in a 'normal' situation, and just be myself. Heh. Thanks for the support you guys, I'm totally bursting.

Heh. I have to confess that my boyfriend had a supporting role in a semi-infamous teen movie in the mid-'80s. I found out about it before we went on our first date (I knew he was a writer so I imdb'd him!), and as we were getting to know each other in the course of our first few dates, I simply conveyed my interest without gushing. I reacted to it (I think) pretty much the way I'd react to anyone talking about a previous career, or goofy hobbies, or any other interesting aspect of their personal narrative. "Oh, you trained as an astronaut/have constructed a time machine/were in a teen movie that partially defined my high school experience? Fascinating. So tell me about weightlessness."

'course, moonbird, your crush is obviously way more famous than my bf ever was in a million years (though, I am proud to say, my bf did finally come clean with me recently and show me the issue of "Teen Set" he was in in 1985, much to my shrieking-fangirl-delight, as well as some of the fan mail he got). But as everyone else has said, this guy you like is just a person too. Plenty of musicians/actors/etc. have friends and relationships with -- for lack of a better term -- civilians. Unless he's a totally insular A-list freak (which he doesn't sound like, or else you wouldn't have met him casually over the weekend), it's not like he's incapable of interacting with your regular non-famous self. So treat him like you'd treat any attractive, engaging fella you'd like to get to know better. Express interest in his current endeavors. Ask questions about stuff beyond his boyband years (but don't shy away from it, if the topic naturally arises). Above all, let your interaction convey your interest in him as an authentic, all-around person and not a famous face/name.

Oh, and email and tell me who it is. In confidence, of course! We paramours of the rich and famous must stick together, you know.

Oh. Menudo. ¡Buena suerte!

Wow, thanks for that awesome perspective, Scody. Actually, when I met him, I'd no idea that he'd been in a Famous BoyBand. It wasn't until I went to his current (and so completely different and wonder) band's website and read his bio that I discovered his past. He's so humble and, well, just about the most well adjusted and spiritually present human I've met in some time (and he's most certainly gay). Either way, it'll be an honor to have him in my life, as a friend or whatever destiny has in store. He is just intensely genuine and funny.

I do have my crushes though. And when they're on, they're on.

Wait, some of those guys in the boy bands in the 80's were gay?

I'm SO telling my sister!

Actually, when I met him, I'd no idea that he'd been in a Famous BoyBand. It wasn't until I went to his current (and so completely different and wonder) band's website and read his bio that I discovered his past.

Ha! This reminds me of when Franka Potente -- no lie!! -- moved in next door to me a few years ago at my old apartment complex. Now, I knew who she was in terms of knowing her movies, but I seriously did not recognize her was when she moved in (she looked rather different than she did in "Run Lola, Run"!). So we starting hanging out and she must've thought I was totally cool because, in reality, I was totally clueless... until the day we were having coffee/smokes in her kitchen and I noticed the snapshot of her guesting on David Letterman. Jesus.

*swoons over Franka Potente*

She was guesting at the Seattle Film Festival for the Princess and the Warrior. Lola had been a big hit at the festival a few years before so the audience was very enthusiastic to see her. She was sitting with Tykwer and a few other people a couple rows up from me. When she got up on stage to talk, there was a big ovation, and I couldn't restrain myself, I yelled out "We love you!" She got all shy and said "I love you too." So even though she meant Seattle, I still go around saying to people "Franka Potente told me she loved me."

I am reminded at this point of Alan Partridge.
Alan escaping from his biggest fan.

It so has to be a Menudo guy. : )

scody, now I'm dying to know who your boyfriend is too!

Argh! Bunch of teases you are!!