Oh Deborah, this is just perfect: thank you!! I've had a nonstop headache due to a steaming pile of dogshit type problem that was unceremoniously dumped on my lap Monday night.

Much as I love y'all and deeply respect your opinions, should the persons involved stumble across my feelings in their blunt form, and on a public forum, no less, I would be utterly horrified.

*runs off to submit question*

You know who else is pretty good is these ladies, but sadly it looks like they haven't updated in quite a while.

Ah. Yes. They won't be answering until December at the earliest. Excellent.

Well then, I'm off to club a baby seal and then beat myself about the face and shoulders.

That ..uh.. doesn't sound healthy, Fris. I hope whatever it is works out.

Thanks, Deborah, it's not a plan for self-castigation, just an accurate metaphorical description of coming events. It will work out fine, but as much as it's no one's 'fault', everyone involved is going to feel icky or hurt. It's just a matter of when and how we decide to face the music. Nobody likes to be on sending or receiving end when the message is of being undesirable.

I don't know if I can help, but you can email me, Friz, if you just want another opinion/voice/view.