Are you feeling better, mr t?

Yes, thank you joss4r, what I think I was most worried about was 'cascade failure'. When the paramedics came they accidentally took my Grandma's (my Aunt's twin sister) heart medication because it was out and they thought it must have been the "victim's".

I'm worried also about the many other older members of my family. But I'm more worried about the younger members of our family that haven't had to face death before. The first death I had to face knocked me for a loop. My Grandfather died and by coincidence I saw the ambulance that took him away. I love my grandfather. I was about sixteen at the time. What I did was to draw him a picture (a Phoenix if you must know). I took it out to the back of the house and I set it on fire.

Some of the younger members of our family have not had to deal with this kind of stuff before.

Mr t, you were apparently an exceptionally bright and sensitive 16 year old. :-)

Your fears are understandable. Death itself is hard enough, but watching what it does to everyone else and how it changes your family can be even harder. :-(

AS hard as your grandfather dying was, you got through it. The younger ones will get through it too. It's part of the cycle. Not a damn thing you can do about it except wait for the happy times to roll around again. (And they always do.)

I hear what you are saying jossi4r, the thing is, at the time of my Granpaws death he was a daily player in my life. I learned a lot from that old Crank. What I'm afraid of is that some of the people around me have never lost someone who contributed to their lives so much.

Mr t, you would be a good support and role model for them. Be there for them. That's all you can do, but it's a very big thing. And it's the only sure thing in life.