MetaChat - I have issues!

Also, the spell check is not working for me, but I don't consider this an issue.

posted by rainbaby 25 October | 09:19

I have every issue of Seventeen from March '82 to June '85, but I only have issue #128 of Dungeon.

posted by danostuporstar 25 October | 09:22

i have a lot of issues of old dragon magazines somewhere unles they have been destroyed

same goes for a frightening amount of signed and rare comics

posted by ethylene 25 October | 09:27

I've got 'em. All you want.

What do you call someone who needs therapy all day every day but can't afford to pay for it?

A therapist.

Thanks, I'll be here all week. I'll be here all day every day, and all week. Probably alone.

xxooxx OmieWise

posted by omiewise 25 October | 09:27

I collect all my issues in a jar. Anyone want to see?

posted by dodgygeezer 25 October | 09:27

I'm kind of a neat-freak. I hate clutter. Shoes, magazines, anything just sitting around drives me bananas. Dishes in the sink can push me close to a panic attack. I've become much better at dealing with it, and putting it in perspective, but it's always there.

posted by tr33hggr 25 October | 09:34

i wanna see the jar.
show it to your boss.

posted by ethylene 25 October | 09:36

I keep dreaming about Steve Martin, so obviously I have deeper issues than I ever suspected. I don't even like him that much and I don't think I've seen one of his movies since, oh, Roxanne. What does it mean?

posted by mygothlaundry 25 October | 09:45

I don't know, but I've been having a series of dreams in which all of my exes feature prominently.

posted by omiewise 25 October | 09:46

Alcoholism. Sex Obsession. OCD. A ravenous need for validation. A temper. Laziness. Envy...shall I go on?

posted by jonmc 25 October | 09:47

Ditto jon. Ditto.

posted by tr33hggr 25 October | 09:49

Envy? Wouldn't have guessed that one.

posted by danostuporstar 25 October | 09:50

Oh, my... Let's see... Authority figures. Big, big problem there. Everything is pefectly hunkydory until somebody tells me what to do... and then I go ziggy. This includes employers... So, you can imagine.

procrastination, self indulgence, weird little things like hating to talk on the phone, bad with money (as soon as the question of money comes up I go limp). Not very good at all at taking criticism, not very good at hiding my (negative) feelings. I also find myself egotistical, but I've fought against that one so constantly all my life, that I'm probably the only who's very aware of it. Messy, forgetful, no protestant work ethic.

posted by taz 25 October | 09:52

Envy? Wouldn't have guessed that one.

Are you kidding? I envy everybody. I have a massive inferiority complex that translates into the chip on my shoulder.

posted by jonmc 25 October | 09:53

A ravenous need for validation.

I can definitely see that. You have a way of totally taking over any thread you're involved in. I'm not quite sure how you do it. You post and all of a sudden the thread is totally about you.

Kind of like this one...doh!

posted by iconomy 25 October | 09:57

Not being such a hothead.

posted by mcgraw 25 October | 10:00

I don't know, but I've been having a series of dreams in which all of my exes feature prominently.

How do you feel the next day, OmieWise? I always feel pretty good after a dream featuring an ex, even if the interaction in the dream was bad.

posted by orthogonality 25 October | 10:01

If we're gonna be real, well then I have scads. I can check off all the seven deadlies: envy, lust, greed, sloth, anger (actually anger not so much), and pride. (I'm kind of proud that I remembered six of those without looking them up actually. Except pride. I forgot pride.)

I can add self destructiveness to them, which encompasses my alcohol and nicotine addictions and driving fast late at night listening to loud music. Poor self image and/or inferiority complex. Sloppiness, laziness and procrastination. Stubbornness. Inability to save money/careless with money. Jealousy. Self centeredness. Fear of commitment. Fear in general.

Yuck. I'd rather worry about why Steve Martin is creeping into my dreams.

posted by mygothlaundry 25 October | 10:03

Ever since I read "If All Men Were Brothers Would You Let One Marry Your Sister?" I've had no issues.

posted by sciurus 25 October | 10:08

No, iconomy, no. . .thank you jonmc, thank you. That's the kind of shit I'm talking about. Except I'll trade out the OCD and laziness for general anxiety and oh. .body image crap. Sometimes it just gets to me. So I appreciate the candor. And if jonmc is walking around and dealing, you know, I can too. And if he's validated, well, he'll have a good couple of minutes, so why deny him that? (thank you again, jonmc)

posted by rainbaby 25 October | 10:10

you're welcome, rainbaby. I have a shitty body image, too, if that makes you feel any better. And ico has a point, my online grandstanding is probably related to my need for validation which is probably related to low self-esteem which is related to God knows what...

posted by jonmc 25 October | 10:13

I'm fat. I didn't realize how bad until I saw some phots of myself. Ick.

posted by orthogonality 25 October | 10:17

...the need for more queer men in your life?

damn your quick fingers, orth!

posted by ethylene 25 October | 10:20

Rainbaby is right that we all have issues.

The question is which of them do we have the power to change?

Act on your ability to change for the better, when possible. Learn to recognize when you can't change something, and don't worry about what you can't change as it will do you no good.

posted by mcgraw 25 October | 10:22

Heh.

Actually, It's The Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown is on tonight. Holiday specials (especially old-school ones) are better than valium, dude.

posted by jonmc 25 October | 10:22

on network?
hot damn

posted by ethylene 25 October | 10:23

No, iconomy, no. . .

Huh? No, what? What did I say? I'm not denying anyone anything.

I didn't mean to insult you, jon. I think you have a larger-than-life personality, and whenever you comment in a thread, other people have a need to answer you. For whatever reason. It was an observation, not an attack. I don't do attacks.

This is really ironic, considering my other comment... ;)

posted by iconomy 25 October | 10:24

go submit yourself to the queer men, jon.
i refuse to enable you any further.
but have them contact me.

posted by ethylene 25 October | 10:25

I already have wolfdaddy and amberglow, (NTM my queer boss here at work) who don't try to change me, baby.

posted by jonmc 25 October | 10:28

iconomy, I just meant I didn't think his one comment in this particular thread had made it all about him. (Not clear/not a big deal.)

posted by rainbaby 25 October | 10:29

exactly, jon. you must be willing to change.

posted by ethylene 25 October | 10:30

wolf and i probably need them more than jon does : >

i have all the issues everyone else has, and one more: having had to learn to hide some of them sometimes makes me deeply unhappy in itself.

posted by amberglow 25 October | 10:32

I have tissues.

posted by With move as the Kimchi the user who knows 25 October | 10:35

Heh. if we're talking about the need for more queer men in our lives, please add me to that list. You can't imagine the culture shock of moving from New Orleans to Greece... Where, to be fair, we do have queer men (and women, I assume), but they all seem so faaaarrrr awaaaaaay from me, personally.

But I really do want to add in here a note about how all of our issues and negative personality traits do show up as the opposite face of a coin. For nearly every negative characteristic, there is a positive attribute that is also connected to the same underlying personality pin. I'm horrible, horrible with money (not spending too much... just dealing with it at all), but I'm also, and probably for the same reason, not stingy, not materialistic, and never, ever likely to cozy up to someone just because they have money.

And so on... Some faults are egregious, sure, but for the most part I always see two sides to any personality defect - or attribute.

posted by taz 25 October | 10:37

taz, I hear you on that whole authority thing. I've only been working it out in the past year, when I started to realise that the only reason I have ever failed to meet deadlines was because a boss reminded me of them. And then I realised that I've pretty much alienated most people who have had authority over me in my time. And then I remembered how I willfully failed 2 years of highschool and was constantly told I was undermining teachers' authority.

Serious oppositional issues here. Mother issues. Work ethic.

Happily, no body image issues, and no sex hang ups.

posted by gaspode 25 October | 10:39

Taz is a woman? And in Greece?

posted by orthogonality 25 October | 10:43

So amberglow, what to do? Live alone and truthfully with The Issues? Or take the support of loved ones who wouldn't be loved ones without the hiding?

posted by rainbaby 25 October | 10:44

* takes a tissue *

Yeah, gaspode... I'm an incredible person to have working for you... But just don't pull the "Oi'm yer boss so yew do what I say do" thing with me, ever. I actually had jobs for really loooong periods for employers I liked, and have given up gorgeous jobs in an instant from someone telling me I shouldn't spend so long at lunch. Literally. (but I had also completely turned around their whole chronic, miserable production failure thing and inability to come in at budget... So what the fuck. That two sides of the coin thing.)

On preview: woman in Greece, yes. :)

posted by taz 25 October | 10:47

Or take the support of loved ones who wouldn't be loved ones without the hiding?

Please don't think so little of the ones who love you. I would venture to guess that they're stronger and more loyal than you think. I also suspect that none of us are nearly as good at hiding things as we think we are.

posted by jrossi4r 25 October | 10:50

orthogonality-I wish I felt good about it. All the dreams have brought on so far are regret and recriminations, but, then, that's pretty much my standard position on anything about which I've made a choice.

posted by omiewise 25 October | 11:01

oh yeah, I should have emphasized that I am a good employee, as long as you are not petty and arbitrary. And I'm bestest friends with my PhD mentor, who had my professional life in his hands for nearly 5 years.

posted by gaspode 25 October | 11:04

gaspode, that's what I thought... I mean... I see a like-soul in terms of this particular problem/attribute. :)

posted by taz 25 October | 11:11

I'm going to be 30 in less than two months. I hate to be a cliche but that's an issue for me, since right now I am not where I expected to be in life at 30. Lesson: never set goals! (Kidding, of course. That is probably a terrible lesson.)

posted by amro 25 October | 11:15

well, thankfully, i don't have to hide them with loved ones (which is partially why they're loved ones). I don't know--I live alone, and love it.

posted by amberglow 25 October | 11:16

amro - I'm going to be, ahem, 40 in a few months. Enjoy your 30s dude, they rock.

posted by tr33hggr 25 October | 11:25

I'll be 35 in just over a month. It's just another age.

posted by jonmc 25 October | 11:30

For a guy it's just another age. Women have a bit of a biological deadline to contend with.

posted by amro 25 October | 11:34

Alcoholism. Sex Obsession. OCD. A ravenous need for validation. A temper. Laziness. Envy.

MOM! JONMC STOLE MY ISSUES!

posted by quonsar 25 October | 11:39

Anxiety. ADHD. Mild Autism. SAD (Social Anxiety AND Seasonal Affective). Plus I'm lazy and like to use convenient labels to enable my behavior.

posted by Eideteker 25 October | 11:45

I forgot satyriasis, but it looks like jonmc got that one covered already.

posted by Eideteker 25 October | 11:46

Plus I'm lazy and like to use convenient labels to enable my behavior.

:) But yer funny, and liiiiike that.

posted by taz 25 October | 11:47

Yes, the biological deadline: I need botox, and microdermabrasion and lasix.

posted by rainbaby 25 October | 12:08

would you like to go home taz?
or bring more home to you?

posted by ethylene 25 October | 12:08

I don't have any issues.

I have volumes.

posted by loquacious 25 October | 12:12

no one needs botox
they need to relax

posted by ethylene 25 October | 12:15

except maybe the migrane thing

posted by ethylene 25 October | 12:16

*gives meself megraine*

posted by ethylene 25 October | 12:16

would you like to go home taz?
or bring more home to you?

to be perfectly honest... I think, no. But I would adore more diversity here. I want to stay here, and have things diverse more. I want more black people, more gays, more people who dress weirder, more idioyncratic people, more ethnic variation, more baaad dogs, more... surprise.

posted by taz 25 October | 12:28

we'll have to deliver.

posted by ethylene 25 October | 12:30

I experience terror and self-doubt before doing anything. Anything: I can't wash my hands without worrying at least briefly that I'm doing it wrong. Moments of self-awareness are mostly horrible to me, because all I can see 99% of the time is how wrong I am. All this of course leads to self-fulfilling prophesies of failure and an inability to truly enjoy my successes, as well as a tendency to be really unreasonably defensive and self-pitying in the face of criticism because DON'T YOU THINK I KNOW HOW BADLY I FUCKED THAT UP?

See, right now: I shouldn't be reading this site, I shouldn't be posting this comment, I shouldn't be sharing this personal information, I'm probably not expressing it clearly, my sentence construction is shameful, and I shouldn't be whining.

posted by PinkStainlessTail 25 October | 12:36

I'm practically perfect in every way.

posted by Specklet 25 October | 12:53

indubitably

posted by ethylene 25 October | 13:04

PinkStainlessTail, I'm amazed that you feel this way; I guess because you don't strike me that way at all. You're one of my favorite mefites... Does that make any difference?

Prob. not, but babybaby, really, you are so much cooler than you realize... Please find a way of discovering that before it's all up!

posted by taz 25 October | 13:24

Loquacious had it right: volumes. Y'all don't really need to hear my crap.

posted by deborah 25 October | 14:33

Issues? I have a lifetime subscription.

Actually, I feel pretty good about myself right now, having just completed my radical dental work and now possessing a smile I can fell confident about for the first time... well, ever. Now, I'm resting a laptop on my belly and thinking about my below-the-chin body issues; one good sign is that I haven't used my new teeth to eat everything in sight (yet).

Yes, there will be pictures.

posted by wendell 25 October | 20:35

Oh, my... Let's see... Authority figures. Big, big problem there. Everything is pefectly hunkydory until somebody tells me what to do... and then I go ziggy. This includes employers... So, you can imagine.

procrastination, self indulgence, weird little things like hating to talk on the phone, bad with money (as soon as the question of money comes up I go limp). Not very good at all at taking criticism, not very good at hiding my (negative) feelings. I also find myself egotistical, but I've fought against that one so constantly all my life, that I'm probably the only who's very aware of it. Messy, forgetful, no protestant work ethic.

Jesus. What taz said.

posted by mudpuppie 25 October | 20:40

I'll be 47 this December. You babies can quit whining now.

posted by bunnyfire 25 October | 21:12

Does that make any difference?

Well sure it does, and thanks. Really, most of the time it's no more than background noise, but when I wrote that comment it was running full strength.

posted by PinkStainlessTail 25 October | 22:11

I would be more than happy to visit, taz. (/me loves Greece and is ½ black) Not gay, though (in case anyone misinterpreted "satyriasis").

And I am funny. I've been told that four times so far today, and it really fucking feeds my fragile self-esteem. Sadly, the bosses are pulling the humor site I write for out from under me and I can't afford to host it myself.

So thanks for assuaging my issues a bit!

posted by Eideteker 25 October | 22:29

PinkStainlessTail, Christmas has become a chore. But because of you I'm looking forward to playing your song and seeing how many people I can get to sing along. Thank you for the happiness and fun!

posted by Feisty 27 October | 00:11

25 October 2005