The rest of the evening was anti-climactic

random stray anecdotes:

There was this guy i was working with on a few intense projects and we took a break to go to a lake one night. While we were sitting on the shore, he decides he's going in the water and strips down completely naked and gets in. Intentions were pretty clear (well beforehand as well, but not like this).
i continued conversing, speaking of how unclean the water may be and how there were in fact parasites in existence that could swim up into a man's urethra and how one guy in the amazon encountered the kind that swam up his urinal flow and--
--he decided to get out of the water and get dressed.
[the rest of the story is far more interesting and i'm meant to put it in one of the ufo threads somewhere]
We remained good friends and still are, although we haven't been in touch for ages. (i hope he's ok but i think hollywood may have got the worst of him)

i was working with another guy way early in the webpage making days and had some ok times hanging out but besides his gothygeek problems (the culminations of which may amuse in another thread someday), i get a call at five in the morning with him hostile asking "when i was going to do him"
"Excuse me, but what the hell are you talking about? I have a boyfriend."
pause.
"If you were my boyfriend, would you want me to do you? What the hell kind of person would I be then, and is that the kind of person you think I am or the kind of person you want as a girlfriend or what?"
pause.
"Exactly what are you trying to say here?"
pause.
"Why are you calling me at five in the morning?"
sparing both him and you all the rest, i let him mumble his way off the phone and we were friends as much as we ever were.
he eventually spazzed out one too many times about other things and i decided not to bother knowing him anymore.
if i ran into him again, i'd treat him as decently as anyone.

oh there are lots of far worse/amusing stories, but besides all that, need i remind people that people who enjoy a lot of porn become inured and tend to lose perspective in many ways, besides other people's stygmatization of porn.
Think of that episode of "Friends" when Joey and Chandler are getting free porn and then start wondering why when they order pizza the delivery girl doesn't get naked
or much better the episode of "Coupling" when the guy who replaced Jeff hasn't had a date in so long, his apartment has become "pornified"

example after example could be made, but if this guy is someone who is a friend of whatever level (it doesn't sound like they're best friends), people forgive the many many gaffes of protocol one bears witness to
and it's a tail to tell