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19 February 2011

Grieving My father died last night. He had been receiving hospice care at home for a couple months for end stage COPD. He never smoked. He was poisoned by Agent Orange in Vietnam, received a 100% disability from the VA. →[More:]All his grandkids call him
Papa, and he was everyone's favorite.
I'm a bit of a wreck. I've spent the last few years caring for my parents as they aged (only girl in the family.) I know in my head that we said everything that we wanted to before he left us, but I miss him so much and I feel sorry about everything I ever didn't do.

post by: toastedbeagle at: 13:06 | 40 comments

Sorry. Forgot the more inside..

posted by toastedbeagle 19 February | 13:07

I'm so sorry :(

posted by ThePinkSuperhero 19 February | 13:20

I'm so sorry for your loss.

posted by Senyar 19 February | 13:29

Oh shit, toastedbeagle, I am so sorry.

posted by msali 19 February | 13:49

Oh, toastedbeagle, I'm so sorry. (hug)

posted by Elsa 19 February | 13:54

I'm so sorry :(

posted by wens 19 February | 14:03

Toastedbeagle, I'm so sorry. Make sure you take care of yourself. Sending every good thought your way.

posted by Sil 19 February | 14:04

((toastedbeagle))

Very sorry. Take care of yourself.

posted by gaspode 19 February | 14:16

Very sorry to hear that. Sending good thoughts to you and your family.

posted by Twiggy 19 February | 14:21

Very very sorry. Hope everybody's holding up okay.

posted by JanetLand 19 February | 14:30

Oh no. I'm so sorry to hear that. *huggles*

posted by sperose 19 February | 14:41

I'm so sorry for your loss, toastedbeagle.

posted by Kangaroo 19 February | 14:52

So sorry, toastedbeagle.

posted by initapplette 19 February | 15:00

My condolences, toastedbeagle. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

posted by deborah 19 February | 15:04

I am so sorry to hear this toastedbeagle. How lucky your dad was to have you around and showing your love.

posted by Miko 19 February | 15:14

((toastedbeagle))

posted by Ardiril 19 February | 15:36

I'm so sorry for your loss.

posted by rainbaby 19 February | 15:41

I am so sorry for your loss, toastedbeagle. You are in my thoughts. You were able to be there for him, and care for him, and I know that meant a lot, to both of you. HUGE hugs (((((((((((((((((toastedbeagle)))))))))))))))))))

posted by redvixen 19 February | 15:45

I'm so sorry, toastedbeagle.

posted by LoriFLA 19 February | 16:56

Thinking of you and your family.

posted by JoanArkham 19 February | 18:01

Sending warm thoughts your way, toastedbeagle.

posted by chewatadistance 19 February | 18:15

I'm sorry._

posted by brujita 19 February | 18:35

So very very sorry, toastedbeagle. *hug*

posted by BoringPostcards 19 February | 18:37

He sounds wonderful. I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

posted by serazin 19 February | 18:48

I'm sorry, I wish you'd had more time with him healthy.

posted by fleacircus 19 February | 18:53

I'm so sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself. ((hugs))

posted by fancyoats 19 February | 18:59

So sorry to hear... Deepest condolences to you and your family.

posted by Pips 19 February | 19:15

I'm so sorry, toastedbeagle.

posted by Kronos_to_Earth 19 February | 20:53

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I'll be thinking of you and your family. Take care.

posted by youngergirl44 19 February | 21:13

I am so sorry.

posted by dilettante 19 February | 22:48

I am very sorry for your loss. Prayers and hugs are with you and your family.

posted by supercapitalist 19 February | 23:14

I'm so very sorry for your loss toastedbeagle.

posted by gomichild 19 February | 23:15

Wishing you peace and comfort.

posted by amyms 20 February | 01:47

Take care -- you and all of your family and friends. You're in my thoughts.

posted by Madamina 20 February | 02:08

So very sorry. Best to you and your family.

posted by arse_hat 20 February | 02:26

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. He sounds like he was an awesome dad.

posted by TrishaLynn 20 February | 06:50

I'm so sorry. Peace.

posted by mdonley 20 February | 06:54

I'm so sorry for your loss. COPD is really difficult and I'm sorry your Dad had to go though it. My best to you and your family.

posted by theora55 20 February | 10:50

Sorry for your loss, toastedbeagle.

posted by galadriel 20 February | 14:17

I'm so sorry toastedbeagle. You and yours take good care of yourself and each other right now and just focus on healing. You were lucky to have him for a father and he was lucky to have you for a daughter. Sending hugs and warm thoughts and more hugs your way.

posted by marsha56 21 February | 02:41

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