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06 March 2009

Since I Do Not Have MOFB. . . →[More:]It's been a hard winter. . .both my wife and I have been sick for over a month, with this and that. Add that to daughter deciding to quit college for now and move to Portland where her gf is (we love the gf and are relieved for now of the financial burden of out-of-state tuition and lodging, but are worried about daughter's long-term prospects). Add that to the general stress of aging, the economy, etc etc.

So not much physical or other intimacy this winter.

But last night, in the middle of the night, her knee contacts my leg and I wake up. And instead of shifting around to break the contact, I just lie there, awake, feeling her skin on mine and thinking I am the luckiest person in the world to have someone I love, to sleep with, and to LIVE with, through all the shit that life tosses at us.

It was just this indescribable moment of contentment. Such moments have been rare.

When's the last time y'all had such a moment of contentment?

post by: danf at: 12:03 | 19 comments

Just last night as well, as a matter of fact. Deets are a tad more, em, intimate, so I ain't gonna share. Suffice to say it was something special, really special.

posted by msali 06 March | 12:26

Last night as well. I got to bed really late/early (3 a.m.) and was thoroughly chilled. The mister shifted around me to get my body warmed up. We chatted and cuddled and it was really lovely.

posted by deborah 06 March | 12:32

That is so nice, danf.

It took me forever to figure out what MOFB meant. duh.

I have been very relaxed lately. I'm very content and appreciative. I think the mid-thirties are awesome. I like myself and other people more than ever and don't sweat the small stuff as often.

posted by LoriFLA 06 March | 12:32

But last night, in the middle of the night, her knee contacts my leg and I wake up. And instead of shifting around to break the contact, I just lie there, awake, feeling her skin on mine and thinking I am the luckiest person in the world to have someone I love, to sleep with, and to LIVE with, through all the shit that life tosses at us.

This made me cry.

posted by essexjan 06 March | 12:39

I propose that if anyone wants to let us know about moments like these, MOFB rules should be suspended.

I'm tearing up too, Jan. Thanks for sharing danf. It's little moments in life like this that, simple quiet moments, that are what it's all about.

posted by MonkeyButter 06 March | 12:55

I am jealous.

posted by amro 06 March | 13:25

I've been in a really shitty mood for the past couple months. No real big reason (well, except for my cat dying) -- just a bunch of small ones, coupled with the fact that this just happens every once in a while. And the GF has been very game about it. While it hasn't been pleasant for her, she's put up with it, and has said explicitly that she's willing to because she loves me that much.

And every once in a while I'm able to break out of my funk and go "Wow, I'm really lucky to have this."

That's not quite as sunny of a story, but hey, you take the bad with the good, right?

posted by mudpuppie 06 March | 14:15

That is really touching, danf. Thanks.

posted by rainbaby 06 March | 14:22

Aw, dan, what a sweet post.

I think I feel a little frisson of good fortune just about every day with scodyboy by my side. I had a similar sense of dreamy contentment early this morning when the dogs woke us up, and he half-staggered out to see what was going on, and then he got back into bed and I felt that the difference in temperature between not-quite-warm-enough when he's out of the bed and perfectly-blissfully-warm when he's in it... it made me sigh and go back to sleep, perfectly content.

I'm incredibly lucky, and I truly wish my luck upon everyone out there.

posted by scody 06 March | 15:01

Hell, I do have MOFB, and I'm delighted to see you share such a lovely sentiment here, danf. It's moments like these --- and sharing them! --- that keep the sun in the sky.

The funny thing is... it could almost be me writing this. I had my own moment like this last night, sometime between 3 a.m. and dawn, a moment that brought home to me the grace and beauty of two people weaving their love together, day after day. It's so inutterably beautiful.

Except it was our butts. Less poetic than knees, somehow.

posted by Elsa 06 March | 15:22

posted by sperose 06 March | 15:52

Not where I thought that was going at all.

Well said, danf. Well said.

posted by Doohickie 06 March | 16:04

Lovely thought.

posted by Miko 06 March | 18:06

Thanks, danf, for the reminder.

Every now and again I catch myself realizing that I have perhaps the single woman who would have put up with me all this time.

I've known plenty of others who might have seemed better in some ways but Mrs. Director has patiently allowed me to develop and work through my ADD issues (even before there was a label for them). Other women would have given up on me long ago in frustration -- and I would not have blamed them one bit.

Not to mention being lovely and giving me two fantastic daughters.

Let me tell you she is getting her reward in this lifetime.

But wth is MOFB?

posted by trinity8-director 06 March | 18:11

But wth is MOFB?

my own fucking blog

posted by danf 06 March | 18:19

Dan, the last two and half years have been shit for me. This winter just seems to be the final nail in the coffin. Even with therapy and drugs I am not happy. I'm not even not unhappy. I get by on not being sad and dangerous.

A few weeks back I had something happen that I shared with someone.

I went to go to sleep and saw my wife diagonal across the bed. Kitty, the black cat, had stretched out his impossible length behind her and pushed his face as far under her as he could as he hates any bit of light while he sleeps. Rosemary swears he learned that from me. Whitey Ford, our other cat, had his stocky self pressed up against Kitty and was hugging his neck with his softball sized head on top of Kitty's baseball sized one.

I knew I would be sleeping on the sofa.

I knew that sometimes life is really fucking good to me.

posted by arse_hat 07 March | 03:03

Oh, Danf, that's really romantic. I'm so happy that you have someone to love.

posted by theora55 08 March | 00:57

((arse_hat))

posted by halonine 08 March | 12:36

Meh halonine, I'm OK. I just recently started to see that despite the fact that I am carrying a lot of shit that grinds me down I still have many folks and creatures that I love and who love me. We need to focus on what is in front of us and not those things in the rear view mirror.

posted by arse_hat 08 March | 23:28

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