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08 June 2008

Cleaning up life's paper trail I'm going through the box of stuff I have at my parents' house.[More:] It's all stuff from high school and college- journals, papers, books and yearbooks. It's weird, I feel bad, somehow, throwing away any of my old paper stuff. I don't want to read my old writings, and I don't want anyone else to read my old writings, so why don't I just throw them away? I don't know. Kinda feels like throwing away a part of myself, ya know? How do you deal with this issue? Are you a saver or a tosser?
Meanwhile, I have not 1, not 2, but *6* Hanson books/programs. Wonder if people might want that stuff on eBay...No, NO! Just throw it away.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero 08 June | 15:09
I'm definitely a tosser, but I wasn't at your age. Now I'll throw away photographs if they don't mean much to me. And diaries. I even threw away one of my high-school yearbooks.

At your age I held onto a lot of textbooks and things that I thought I might "need". I never did. You'll probably realize that. You already do. Like you said in your entry, if you wanted to know something you wouldn't reference high-school notes, you'd look it up on the internet. At this point I don't save any textbook or reference book, except a Tabers medical dictionary (you can even get this online) and a few other materials specific to my job. Everything else can be looked up on the internet.

I toss all of my children's schoolwork unless the writing is personal or especially sweet or funny. I save all of their artwork that is creative or worth saving, and of course all of the handprints and stuff like that. Colored dittos are not worth saving. At first I was saving every spelling test and worksheet. That's nuts. I would have to rent storage.

There are a few questions you're supposed to ask with objects. Does this object serve a purpose? Does it bring me joy or happiness? If not, toss. It's freeing.
posted by LoriFLA 08 June | 15:21
I remember when I threw out all my old notes and papers from when I did my law degree. It was all completely useless but it still felt like a waste to discard it.

I'm fairly ruthless about throwing stuff away these days. I try to do it as I go along, but every few months I'll have a big clear out. I don't keep things like concert tickets. I mean, I know I was there, and a used concert ticket is meaningless to anyone else. And I never buy theatre programmes or souvenir brochures from any tourist place I might visit.

I have an old diary from my teenage years that has a couple of autographs in it, school reports and certificates, copies of my parents' birth and marriage certificates (which I need when I apply for a passport, as I was born outside the UK) and a bunch of old photographs. That's about it really for 'old' paperwork.
posted by essexjan 08 June | 15:23
I'm a saver. I have diaries from age 11 up to now (though I really don't write much in it anymore. I tend to use a little day planner these days). I agree with LoriFla - I save any memorable pictures my kids do/did, and the handmade handprints etc., but school work is discarded. I save much too much, but periodically go through and toss old cards, letters, unnecessary items. I do have every letter my grandmother wrote to me; I have the letter of acceptance to a fashion illustration school that I wasn't able to attend for financial reasons; I still have old love letters; and let's not get in to all the photographs. I wish I still had my yearbooks - they were destroyed in a basement leak. It's true that I don't read my diaries, and I'm not sure I want anyone else to (too much information in too much detail), but I just can't bring myself to throw them out. Maybe someday.
posted by redvixen 08 June | 15:38
I've recently been thinking that I need to throw out burn those whiny old journals and sketchbooks I kept periodically thru my 20s and 30s, and well, up to today. I could keel at any moment and god knows I don't want anyone to read them now. I have endless other memorabilia that needs to go too. Pictures, a few personal notes, those I could keep.
posted by DarkForest 08 June | 18:24
I have:

- six fileboxes full of all my stuff from college
- my bedroom at my Dad's house full of all my stuff from before college
- a huge collection of expired cards/licenses/documents.

It's tough. I can't just throw away books, and no one wants outdated atlases or almanacs, so yeah, they continue to sit...

It's sort of, in weird way, how I continue to squat in my parents' houses - like if I give things away or change anything, I won't actually be living there anymore, and that would mean...something. As it is right now, after the theft of my laptop in Latvia, when I lost years of photos, documents, and music, I'm really afraid to detach from possessions anymore, and that's frustrating - I like to run a tight ship normally, but the chain to my stuff doesn't just keep it in place, but it holds me back too.

So, if you can: toss/donate it.
posted by mdonley 08 June | 19:19
I'm a ruthless tosser typically. So much so that more often than not when I do a purge I throw something away that I need within a month or so. And then I have to buy it again.

That said, my parents' house had a lot of my crap in it still, from high school and college. When I was about 30 my mom finally buckled down and told me I had to take it all with me. That was when I did what you are doing now, it looks like.

What I ended up keeping was only letters, yearbooks, pictures, journals, and the notes I passed back and forth with friends in middle school. They're hilarious. Oh, and my fancy dresses from dances. My grandma saved my mom's, and I just treasure them!

Autographed postcard from when I met Annie Lennox circa 1983, though? Tossed.

Maybe for you it's not quite time to let go of all of those papers. I threw away all academic stuff. I cringed when I read the papers and notes, so that was easy. But the personal stuff? Yeah, I'm with you. It's hard.

Bit by bit, I think as we get farther away from an era the things that are important reveal themselves.

Good luck...
posted by Stewriffic 08 June | 20:33
I tossed all of my school stuff, but I do have a box of silly things that I hold on to. It's just a small box, and I go through it every year or so and throw away things that don't still make me happy. Most other things though? Expendable.

I'm a throw-things-away person and mr. g is a keep-things person so we negotiate those waters with some difficulty sometimes, but generally come to a decent compromise.

I've learnt to throw away (donate) books in the past few years, only keeping valuable ones, or those that I read again and again. Living in a tiny NYC apartment is good for that.
posted by gaspode 08 June | 20:55
I look at stuff and if I have not worn it, used it, or, read it, in the last 9 months or if does not have sentimental value (like something I bought for my mom when I was 6) or long term reference value (tax records) then it gets tossed out.

mdonley, if you were my child I would have probably tossed your stuff by now. I am cold. I know. "after the theft of my laptop in Latvia, when I lost years of photos, documents, and music," That is devastating but it is also one of the things I love about computers. I can keep important things like family photos in two places to protect them from disaster.

When my dad sold his house we went through a bunch of stuff in the basement and for some reason there was a Radio Shack catalogue that featured a TRS 80 business computer with colour monitor, spreadsheet software, and two 5.25 floppy drives for just $9,995.00! What a bargain!
posted by arse_hat 08 June | 22:57
Surprised people throw away their old journals. The reason I started a journal was because I kept wishing I had old journals from my old self.

Had to fly home from campus after school ended, so anything that couldn't fit in my suitcase was trash.
posted by theicono 08 June | 23:05
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