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05 June 2008

Today my youngest child graduated [More:]from preschool. It was such a sweet ceremony. The kids wore royal blue caps and gowns. Two high-schoolers played "Pomp and Circumstance" on the piano and the flute.

The kids sang "You are My Sunshine" and "The World is a Rainbow", which always makes me cry, along with some other cute songs. We had cookies and punch afterward with the other parents and mingled a bit.

As we left I felt the preschool I felt a little sad. We would no longer be going to this preschool. We've been there for four years between two kids.

Tonight I went to Barnes and Noble to browse around and buy my eldest son's teacher a gift card (his last day of school is tomorrow). I was feeling lonely and sad and glancing around for somebody I knew. By chance I hoped I would see someone I knew from school so we could talk about today's graduation and how kids, they grow so quickly. I didn't bump into anyone I knew.

Have you ever had that lonely, desperate feeling? To see somebody you know to talk or just get your mind off things? And everything you look at seems trivial and ridiculous? I was in the fiction section and most every title and book description seemed silly or shallow.

There were parents at school that I would have liked to know better but never reached out to in a significant way. I won't see most of these parents in the future because our kids go to different schools.

I feel a little sad that these two preschool years have zoomed by for my youngest son and I didn't really cherish them like I should have. I was kind of absent.

This is incredibly uninteresting and I probably shouldn't post such boring things, but typing it out helps me I think. I'll be over this melancholy mood in a couple days, or less. For now, I feel a little wistful.
I assume the kids are out partying now. Hope the parents locked up the booze.
posted by jonmc 05 June | 22:25
jonmc, I laughed out loud. They're partying in their Blue's Clues shirts.

On Tuesday I was one of the parents that volunteered to throw the end-of-the-year party for my kid's class. After school, at home, I asked him if he had a good time.

He said, "I thought it was going to be more extreme. You should have had ten water slides, mom!" Extreme? That cracked me up. The kid watches too much TV.
posted by LoriFLA 05 June | 22:33
jonmc, I laughed out loud. They're partying in their Blue's Clues shirts.

Now they are. But the minute your back is turned, they're gonna break out those Bob The Builder bootlegs and get buck wild, lady.
posted by jonmc 05 June | 22:35
(((LoriFLA)))

You can only do what you can at the time. Best not to have regrets and dwell on what might have been.
posted by gomichild 05 June | 22:35
Thanks, gomi. This is unlike me. I usually don't get sentimental about this kind of stuff.
posted by LoriFLA 05 June | 22:41
" For now, I feel a little wistful."

Such is parenthood Lori. That sense of I could/should have done more never ever goes away. It's a natural state. The fact that you feel that way says you care and are doing your best. Hugs.

Two graduation pics.

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Maybe we should have a parent's day for photo Friday sometime.
posted by arse_hat 05 June | 23:00
Arse, those are such sweet pics!

We should do that for a photo Friday. It's a fun idea. Thanks for your nice words.

Here is a photo from today. The stage was setup with the four seasons.

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posted by LoriFLA 05 June | 23:13
I know just how you feel. I feel that way and worse now that MY son graduated. Shouldn't HE be the nostalgic one by now??????

Time flies.
posted by bunnyfire 05 June | 23:24
I didn't know that preschools even did graduations... Perhaps having a ceremony at all dramatized the milestone for you disproportionately? I mean, you're still at the beginning of childhood with this one, yeah? :)

I think it's good that you're thinking this stuff through and having these feelings, though, because it may help form a kind of firebreak for the much more dramatic scene of a high school graduation and subsequent leaving of the nest. I don't have children so my judgment is off about all this stuff, but it seems to me you have many happy years of close togetherness with your youngest and many rich opportunities to help him become his all ahead of you. Nothing to be melancholy about there!

Perhaps it's like your last week at a certain job or in a certain home... every little thing that happens turns into a "well, I guess that's the last time I'll be doing that." If this is your youngest and your last perhaps you're feeling some melancholy that the baby-rearing is behind you? This youngest kid is bound to represent the last of many things for you as he grows older. There will be something every time you turn around, I figure.

I have absolutely had that desperate-to-run-into-someone feeling and no one is ever around at the time.
posted by scarabic 06 June | 00:41
I had one...the last time I saw the picture (about ten years ago)I couldn't recognize myself.
posted by brujita 06 June | 00:46
(((LoriFLA)))

I will soon be posting the pics from my son's 5th grade graduation as well as some wedding pics.

It's always ok to cry.

I hope.

Hugs to you and yours.
posted by lilywing13 06 June | 01:53
Yes, scarabic. Those are my thoughts about the situation, exactly.

The first year we were at this preschool I thought the graduation ceremony with the caps and gowns was a little nuts and over-the-top. Several parents took their older children out of school so they could attend the graduation. They all had balloons and chocolates and flowers. It was funny. I just had my husband and our cheap camera. We weren't going to pull our older kid out of school for a preschool graduation. Then I questioned whether I should have. :-) My sister and I were joking that I would call everybody out of the woodwork and have presents at high-school graduation, maybe Harvard graduation, but not preschool.

I think it's the last-time-I'll-ever-see-this-place feeling and the fact that they are growing up.
posted by LoriFLA 06 June | 07:07
Aw, Lori...

Super-cute pic though. Yours too, arse-hat.

Americans do love to graduate from things, don't they? :) I've always been bemused by high school graduation, which at least when I was finishing high school, had never heard of in a high school setting (we have a prizegiving assembly). Graduation means college!
posted by gaspode 06 June | 07:17
A prizegivng assembly sounds like a lot more fun. I am envisioning a gameshow. ;-)
posted by LoriFLA 06 June | 07:37
aww, LoriFLA, such a bittersweet feeling. And, I think it's good that you are telling us your story. It's a shame that your couldn't find a IRL parent to share the feelings with, but I like that you validated your emotions by sharing them.

I find that I write out lots of things to share, but then chicken out.

Sending a smile your way today!
posted by mightshould 06 June | 07:53
I liked reading this post, Lori... it's a very cool look into a moment in your life. Endings are always a little melancholy, even though endings are also beginnings blah blah blah. :) Thanks for sharing it with us.
posted by BoringPostcards 06 June | 08:33
aw, thanks, BP.
posted by LoriFLA 06 June | 08:49
So cute, Lori. My oldest is finishing preschool and getting ready to transition into kindergarten. Mrs. Plinth gets very emotional about it.
posted by plinth 06 June | 14:26
My youngest will be having his "moving up" ceremony from 5th to 6th grade next week. I know what you mean by the "last of" things. My baby is moving into "grade school" - where did those years go? Sorry, I'm feeling a bit lost and emotional myself the past couple of days, so I'll commiserate with you.

And yeah, I've had those moments when you really need a real person to talk to, even by phone, and no one seems to be available. Sucks.
posted by redvixen 06 June | 19:38
Congrats Lori. I'm glad you guys had fun.
posted by Doohickie 06 June | 19:40
so I had my first real lucid dream last night || Ain't no party like a #bunnies party

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