"Not that you guys can hold me accountabl" Hmmmmm. Sounds like a dare.

...she wanted a "special" relat. outside her marriage and I just wanted to get laid NSA so I declined.

!!! That set off alarm bells for me. Be careful danf, that she doesn't go all psycho crazy ex girlfriend on you, sending pictures to your wife and stringing up your bunny.

I am over it. . .I spent a few minutes in turmoil but writing that out helped to clear my head.

It's just not worth it. (this I know from experience)

Dude, just write her an email about your new life. as a Furry!

Delete the e-mail. You'll only want to read it over and over and over again.

I'd be worried about her trying to fuck up your life if you offend her in your rejection of her advances. Sometimes people do stupid things like that. So delete the email and tread carefully.

danf: man to man, and all kidding aside, in my experience what your feeling when you read her email is not arousal exactly, or more precisely it's arousal mixed with something else: ego food.

When your relationship is getting rocky and isolated, the idea that somebody finds you attractive enough to fool around with or even have a relationship with is a major shot to the sexual self-esteem. And that's a heady brew and it can be an intoxicating feeling and you can really fuck a lot of things up chasing it. When you read her email, that's coming back to you, and while that feeling is a shot in the arm to be sure, it's not worth the obvious good thing you have going with your wife and family. I know what I'm talking about.

So delete/ignore the email. or if you feel like having some fun, use my 'furry' suggestion. I guarantee she wont bother you again.

Put nothing incriminating in writing. Nothing. A short, upbeat note on how happy you are now, and hope she is too, take care of yourself, goodbye. Then delete her e-mail.