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02 July 2006

I think I asked a boy out someone hold me, I'm scared.

And I have a newfound respect for every guy who has ever asked me out... this shit is scary!
→[More:]The guy I mentioned in the confessions thread? Well, he messaged me and we chatted for about three hours online yesterday. So after I dropped him an email asking if he wanted to get together for a couple beers on Monday night. I tried to keep it low key and ambigious as to if it was just friends or not, but seeing as how we've never really gone anywhere together and always meet up at clubs and parties it may be obvious.

Because my circle is so very scene I sent it via myspace.
I know he read it. But he hasn't replied yet.

meep.
Today I am going to a tea party for someone's birthday. We're all supposed to dress up. And I'm so on edge I can't even think about starting to get ready.

post by: kellydamnit at: 10:58 | 16 comments

I have a crush of my own... I can imagine how you might be feeling. Good vibes are sent your way.

posted by getoffmylawn 02 July | 11:23

I think the best way is to be stupid goofy smiling when you do it. Then you're feeling too dumb to feel nervous.

I think I'm going to be asking someone out soon myself. Unambiguously.

posted by DaShiv 02 July | 11:36

Yeah, well, we (guys) tried to tell you (girls) how hard it is, but nooooooo. No one believes us!

posted by agropyron 02 July | 11:39

Best thing to remember is your sense of humor. Even if you get shot down, it's not the end of the world. Next best thing is that life is too short not to take chances.
You know what it's like now. So remember to do onto others as you would have them do onto you.

Good luck!

posted by black8 02 July | 14:06

Excellent. Congrats!

Note: it's one of the few things I know of that doesn't get easier with practice.

posted by dobbs 02 July | 14:51

It gets easier with time. Just keep asking guys out!

posted by Eideteker 02 July | 15:14

It is no coincidence that the timestamp on my comment is an anagram for dobbs'. It's just a shame that by the time I got good at asking ladies out, it no longer does me any good.

posted by Eideteker 02 July | 15:15

Boys are tricksy. I think when you ask them out they get confused, much in the same way that you were confused doing it. Whenever I try to ask a dude to hang out, it seems like they think there's some alterior motive. Like we'll sit down and I'll start trying to convert them to a new religion or something. This actually happened to my ex after a chick asked him out once.

posted by SassHat 02 July | 16:50

For me, it did get easier with time. YMMV.

posted by grouse 02 July | 17:13

I feel for you! I went to a party this weekend that I knew a cute boy was going to be at, and I was nervous the whole day. It was horrible :( Good luck! Breathe!

posted by halonine 02 July | 17:30

Boys are tricksy. I think when you ask them out they get confused,

No, we are not. We are very simple. When a girl asks us out or shows any romantic/sexual interest in us whatsoever, we are knocked into a tizzy with flattery. If a three-eyed albino midget hermaphrodite asked me on a date, the flattery buzz would still have me buzzing. for a couple hours at least.

posted by jonmc 02 July | 18:35

If he spent THREE HOURS chatting with you then I guarantee he was all aflutter when you asked him out. Slam dunk.

posted by PlanetKyoto 03 July | 02:06

ugh, not really as he apparently already had plans. And I think I was a bit too ambigious.
But, it's an odd situiation. We're friends, we have the same general social circle, and we've know each other for about a year.
But, thanks to our good friend alcohol, there was a momentary change in the status of our relationship. And now I don't think either of us know what is going on.

Plus, he's shockingly clueless, almost charmingly so, even for a 26 year old guy. So I may need to be more direct.

posted by kellydamnit 03 July | 03:41

So I may need to be more direct.

Out comes the riding crop.

posted by Eideteker 03 July | 10:11

The vast majority of the guys I have ever liked have been so clueless that it basically takes a sledgehammer to get the point across. Fortunately, I've always been a sledgehammery type of girl. If I didn't ask guys out, I'd never have been on any dates.

posted by matildaben 03 July | 15:32

I'm very much not, and normally petrified of any sort of social interaction.
But, I am devious. I let it slip to his bandmate that I was interested in him, in a roundabout way. "he's still single, right? So, you think I'm his type?"
His bandmate is, in addition to being a long-time friend of mine, one of the most notorious gossips I know.
So, maybe once the rumor mill hints that I'm interested, he'll finally see what I've been getting at.

posted by kellydamnit 03 July | 15:39

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