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09 February 2006

Confessionmecha - what was the biggest age difference between you and your sex partner. Was it any good?→[More:] I'll go first - he was twentytwo years older, full head of white hair, tanned, fit and oh my, talented mouth.
But that is right up there in the dirty old man category isn't it?

post by: dabitch at: 20:23 | 38 comments

I was eighteen and he was thirty-one. My, did that seem exotically old.

posted by Miko 09 February | 20:26

Last year there was a 30 year old guy. I was 22.

It was good.

posted by SassHat 09 February | 20:26

The woman was well over 10 years older than me. I was too drunk to really notice.

posted by jonmc 09 February | 20:28

Me: 33
Her: 22
Sex: Good

posted by bmarkey 09 February | 20:31

16 and 40s---fabulous!

posted by amberglow 09 February | 20:31

I dunno if age makes as much of a difference as experience. The only time I've ever been on an equal plane with that was when I was groping naked on the couch with a neighbor boy at 15. yes, you read that right.

posted by jonmc 09 February | 20:33

Biggest difference here has been 7 years in either direction - one older woman, one younger man, one younger woman. I may consider exploring my Mrs. Robinsonian side in the future however.

posted by matildaben 09 February | 20:35

i still learn new tricks from older guys : >

posted by amberglow 09 February | 20:40

Me: 20
Her: 38
Sex: Indescribably amazing

I don't think that I'll ever have sex that good again.

posted by cmonkey 09 February | 20:43

A mate of mine lost his 14-year old virginity to his mothers best friend (who was in her mid 40s). Claims that she taught him everything.

posted by dabitch 09 February | 20:46

I was 20. He was in his mid-30s. It was so meh. Which was disappointing. I've always liked "older" guys and he was the only one I was ever with.

posted by jrossi4r 09 February | 20:47

I forgot to answer the "was it good" part? Not really, though I guess I thought so at the time. I much prefer people my own age now. Everyone is much, much better at everything.

posted by Miko 09 February | 20:48

Okay, here goes -

23 (me), her (35), engaged, sex? Meh. We broke up. Never let it be said that ultra-rich people are even close to sane (her family was oil/stocks rich).

27 (me), her (18) - girl that got me to Seattle. Ever read Great Expectations? Her mother was Mrs. Havisham, truly creepy. Sex? Okay.

posted by Lipstick Thespian 09 February | 20:56

Me 14 her 40 something. It was very good. I always went after older women. As a teen boy if you hit on a women much older you get laughed off or you get laid. It was a lot esier than asking out girls my age.

posted by arse_hat 09 February | 20:59

*kicks self for not thinking of arse_hat's scheme during teen years*

posted by bmarkey 09 February | 21:02

Actually, looking back, there was a neighbor lady who was flirting with me (showing interest in my music collection, etc) when I was a teen, but I was too dense to notice at the time. And when I was a salesman, I had several 40+ ladies who would flirt with me through my shpiel, including one pair of 50+ ladies who i overheard saying "he's cute," "yeah," to eacother behind my back. I need to find a retorement community and become a gigolo.

posted by jonmc 09 February | 21:03

Me: 19, fiercely liberal
Her: mid-30s (her story kept changing), rabid reactionary
Sex: astounding, like angry sex and make-up sex rolled into one

posted by goatdog 09 February | 21:21

I was 24, he was 35; I was getting my Master's, he was finishing his PhD; we were on the union steering committee together at U of Iowa. It all seemed rather scandalous! The sex was quite good, and I really liked him, but we were just in very different places in our lives (read: I was immature and sorta fucked-up; he was a grumpy curmudgeon-in-training). It didn't last long, and ended kind of weirdly.

Current boyfriend is 7 years older (me 36; him 43), which is the second-oldest age gap in my relationship history. The sex is fantastic.

Now that I'm -- ahem -- an "older" woman in relation to boys in their teens and early 20s, I suppose I could go about making some of their sweet young dreams come true. Problem is I find almost anyone under the age of 25 to be from another planet. I did hit on an 18-year-old student back in grad school (after the semester was over!) when I was 25, but nothing ever came from it aside from drunkenly making out in my car after a party.

posted by scody 09 February | 21:29

Problem is I find almost anyone under the age of 25 to be from another planet.

I can dig that. Oddly, back in college I had some 15-year old making goo-goo eyes at me while I was waiting in line for Stones tickets. Combine that with incidents like the old broads getting gooshy on me, and I begin to come to the conclusion that I'm seriously out of sync with people my own age.

posted by jonmc 09 February | 21:32

In the other direction I was 36 and she was 17. It was very good. She had been flirting with me but I stayed away because I was her prof. But once the year ended and my sssional contract was done I had no reason to run away.

posted by arse_hat 09 February | 21:41

Me 24, 25ish, she was 55 and gorgeous. Best one night stand, ever. Furniture was broken, as were my glasses.

Except it wasn't really a one night stand, it was more like a one night, all day the next day, all night the next night and the next morning stand. I still occasionally wonder where she's at.

A couple of years earlier I dated a 36 yo for almost 2 years. The sex was really good then, too.

posted by loquacious 09 February | 21:47

I was a young lad and she was a mighty mother oak tree, 200 years if she was a day. Alas, she gave me splinters and I cut her down.

posted by weretable and the undead chairs 09 February | 22:16

I somehow tend to date men way older than me...the smallest difference was 5 years, on average 12-15 years difference for the rest, and one was even 32 years older than me...(don't ask!). I think men are like wine...

posted by ramix 09 February | 22:19

Me: 30, he: 17 and it was rather awkward and sweet. Now at 40 and 27 (we're ftf, by the way) it's downright pretty near to heaven.

posted by WolfDaddy 09 February | 22:25

ftf? (forgive my ignorance)

posted by jonmc 09 February | 22:26

face to face? You kept your toyboy? :)

posted by dabitch 09 February | 22:28

you asking me or him?

posted by jonmc 09 February | 22:30

I'm asking wolfdaddy - I thought you were supposed to throw the wee fish back in. ;) [oh I'm kidding!]

posted by dabitch 09 February | 22:31

Me 25...her 18 and a katrina evacuee....

i much rather prefer someone very close to my age...

posted by Schyler523 09 February | 22:33

He was a 900 year old green midget and I was a 19-year-old knight-in-training. He smelled awful but he could pick up huge ships with his mind so I thought it best to go along with his advances. I still find green slime in places.

posted by weretable and the undead chairs 09 February | 22:52

ftf = friends that fuck ... sometimes face to face, but not mandatory ;-)

And dabitch ... he kept me. This makes me happy on many levels.

posted by WolfDaddy 09 February | 23:02

Me: 33
Him: 49
Sex: I married him (aka: good)

posted by deborah 10 February | 00:26

I'd say sexual friend. To me, fuck buddy implies just sex and friends with benefits implies that the other aspects of friendship aren't worth as much.

posted by brujita 10 February | 00:27

Wow. I actually come close to winning this one! When I was 21, I had a fling with a 56-year-old classmate. Yep. It was okay. Not great. I actually didn't like her very much.

My current SO is, um, about 18 years older than I am. I'm probably more ready to get involved with people my own age now that people my own age aren't so stupid.

posted by mudpuppie 10 February | 01:43

me = 19, him = 31. Him also = my boyfriend's sister's husband. Yeah. I wasn't known for making good decisions 11 years ago. Sex was OK. It probably seemed a lot better at the time.

I think every other person I've hooked up with has been within 3 years either way. mr. g is 3 years older. My last LTR was 3 years younger.

posted by gaspode 10 February | 01:48

Her 18 /Me 25 = totally amazing but i think that was just cuz she was krayzee wild. I had finger furrows that scabbed over and a fat lip for days.

posted by sciurus 10 February | 09:24

Upwards: Me, mid-twenties; him... possibly near 60. I really have no idea, because we were both very drunk and he was a pity fuck. And as drunk pity fucks go, it was pretty bad.

Downwards: Me, 25; him, just turned 20. Amazing.

Most of the women I've fooled around with were around my age, though I will never forget mid-30s P.J. (and her husband M. who taught me how to do prostate massage!) and her amazing nipples. (Why do you think I mostly keep my nails short?)

I prefer older guys, and the most consistent age gap for me is between three to 10 years.

posted by TrishaLynn 10 February | 13:14

Let's see. I was 18, he was 43 I think. But we only kissed. Which I don't really remember the quality of. Which probably means not great. The other large gap one was when I was 26, he was 40 something. it was also not memorable. The rest were all within 8 years or so either way. Mrs. Chewy falls into that category & she's the best kisser in the universe, and being in love just makes it that much better. I did have a one night fling with a coworker about 10 years ago before I met her that was fabulous - the only time with a man that was like that. I've always been more comfortable with women.

posted by chewatadistance 10 February | 13:44

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