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03 October 2005

So, um...on Saturday evening... I went on a quasi-date...→[More:]It was more accurately a getting to know you kind of bike ride/hanging out session. It was fun, until we went to a mutal friends house for a party/get-together. Then a combination of things happened. The 'date' went from one-on-one to interaction with the rest of the party...which succeeded in making the both of us fairly akward. So she left, and i stayed...and over thought this all through to the point that im convinced that although i should continue to try to be in situations that challenge me, all i could think about was shelby (the ex) and that made me feel bad, almost like i jumped the gun on getting back in the game...

So i am a nervous mess...but overall pretty happy (honestly)

post by: Schyler523 at: 14:33 | 12 comments

felt like actually telling you all whats going on, rather than posting wistful lyrics...

posted by Schyler523 03 October | 14:41

No, you did the right thing. The first few dates are going to be awkward, but eventually that stops and you can enjoy yourself again. By not getting back in the game, you just delay that awkward period.

posted by me3dia 03 October | 14:41

me3dia is right. It's hard to put yourself out there after you've been hurt badly and there are bound to be bumps in the road. I'm glad to hear that you are moving on and feeling happier.

posted by LeeJay 03 October | 14:44

Bike riding sounds like a great thing to do on a first date.

posted by iconomy 03 October | 14:45

we rode our bikes to a local cemetery and checked out cool headstones, and talked...it was very fun. The thing that made it akward was going to a gathering of people afterwards...somehow i ( a normally very extroverted person) clammed up...that transition from one-on-one to other was what torpedoed the whole thing.

posted by Schyler523 03 October | 14:52

You will have akward moments, it's the way of things. You should be happy (and proud of yourself)- you had fun, and you deserve to.

posted by puddinghead 03 October | 14:54

Ask her out for another get-to-know you and see how it goes. Don't psych yourself out.

The awkwardness at the party -- it's a non-issue. Something was bound to be awkward -- if not this time, then next.

And good on you for trying it in the first place!

posted by mudpuppie 03 October | 14:54

Yes, definitely ask her out again.

posted by me3dia 03 October | 15:03

Yeah, what muppuppie said. You're very brave. (Definitely braver than I.)

posted by Specklet 03 October | 15:04

Yes, ask her out again. You'll think about your ex - you'll ALWAYS think about your ex. Hell, I still think about the guy I dated for two weeks my first year in college! but that shouldn't stop you from going out and having a good time and meeting new people. And I hate parties and always clam up unless I'm really drunk - it's perfectly natural to be comfortable with someone in one social situation but not in another. Now I'm rambling.

posted by muddgirl 03 October | 15:14

*hugs the Schyler*

You're doing well, really, you are.

posted by Frisbee Girl 03 October | 15:54

Good on yer. Consider, she felt more awkward than you did. Call her up, have a laugh about it.

posted by stilicho 04 October | 03:13

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