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06 June 2008

Ugh. I was just the aggressor in an online flame war. [More:]I feel so conflicted about it. I came on a bit strong, but I thought the guy was being really offensive and inappropriate, but hiding behind a veil of "oh, I'm just sweet an innocent, and I only believe what I'm saying applies to me, not to anyone else here." So I called bullshit, rather harshly, and the guy wrote an essay on how I misread him and was a total asshole.

So then I posted again, apologizing for reacting in anger, but pointing out that he may not have chosen his words carefully enough, because he pretty unambiguously said what I accused him of saying. But then maybe I took him too literally, or took it out of context, or something, which is possible.

Ugh. His initial post hurt me. I hurt him in my follow-up post. I still don't know if he's sincere in saying that he didn't mean what I accused him of. I'm sure he still thinks I'm an asshole.

I don't like the way this feels. At the same time, I feel like I kinda stood up for myself in way that I usually don't, about something that's very important to me. That part feels kinda good. But I obviously made him feel very bad, which doesn't make me feel good.

Man, I wish there were just a big room where we could all have massive nerf/pillow fights.
::throws pillow::
posted by ThePinkSuperhero 06 June | 21:17
we could all have massive nerf/pillow fights.

I used to babysit this kid who had a Nerf Fencing set. It was really fun.
posted by jonmc 06 June | 21:19
Leave the best intentions and walk away.
Then flop on something.
*smack you with a roundhouse king sized feather stuffed*
posted by ethylene 06 June | 21:20
Look through my mefi history and you will feel better about yourself in no time :(
posted by scarabic 06 June | 22:36
True, scarabic does have a long history of rousing rabbles.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero 06 June | 22:40
Ok, scarabic and ThePinkSuperHero, I'm ready to take you on. You wouldn't believe how densely-packed my feather pillow is. But that's ok -- once you feel the wrath of my pillow, you'll know that my pillow is boss.

(Btw, anyone ever had a pillow fight in total darkness save for a strobe-light? If not, I think we should put that on the agenda for a meetup.)

posted by treepour 06 June | 23:30
It feels good, doesn't it?

Yes. Yes, come to the dark side.

(sounds more like a flame skirmish, though.)
posted by Eideteker 07 June | 04:24
I engage in this sort of thing all the time. I'm trying to be good, but it pisses me off when someone says, "Oh, you misinterpreted what I said," as some sort of excuse for offensiveness.
posted by muddgirl 07 June | 11:07
Culture. No clash this time || non sequitur

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