*supports fuzzbean*

Good luck, I wish I could do the same thing you're doing with some people I know.

(first result for whuffles on google)

Best of luck, fuzzbean. For one so young you show a level of maturity which makes me realise how gauche I was in my 20s (and still am now).

I don't have any advice, but lots of whuffles and best of luck! It will go how it will go, and whatever happens, you know best what's right for you.

I think if you listen intently to B's concerns, reassure her that you're fine, and show her plenty of respect and understanding she'll come around. Be firm and hold your ground. In other words, reiterate the general message that you sent A and B previously.

Good luck fuzzbean. I agree with essexjan, you've handled this brilliantly so far. You'll do fine!

This is not easy but try to remember that THEY were the folks in the wrong, not you.

I think you will do just fine. Just remember, no backpedaling or apologizing on your part. They are not entitled to have a say in how you run your life.

Now, let the whuffling commence in earnest...

WHUFFLEWHUFFLEWHUFFLE!!!!

[[[[whuffles]]]]]

*phew*

((((whuffles))))

May the force be with you. You've totally got what it takes to handle this with grace!

*sigh*

B has recently gone to a three-day workshop to get in touch with her "shadow self" (insert air-quotes and eyerolling as appopriate--and no, I didn't actually do any at dinner) and therefore pretty much ignored/denied all my points. She also described my last post as a temper tantrum and didn't seem to really get why I was upset at having this posted in a public forum (she's working on being more "transparent" and didn't see why I wasn't down with that.) She took absolutely no responsibility for her behavior.

So...I told her that I would have a hard time trusting her as a result of this and that her behavior made me not want to tell her things. And she said, "I understand" in that "of course you are upset, less enlightened one" sort of voice.

And so it goes. Don't think of it as losing a friend. Think of it as gaining an aquaintance.

On the bright side, A and I are cool, and she gets why I'm upset and thinks it's perfectly justified. (And has apologized for her (minimal) part in this.)

I'm still pretty bummed.

Fuzzbean -- I'm sorry I didn't get to wish you luck earlier, but I'm wishing it now, for all it's worth.

I'm sorry to hear that B didn't understand.

Well, fuzzbean, looks like a win-win to me.

What the heck is a shadow self? (Don't worry, I'll go google it. But it sounds all woo-woo to me.)

*back from google*

Oh good night nurse. Jung indeed! Altho from her actions looks like she didn't actually understand the merde they were shoveling.

Shadowy indeed.

I don't know her, but all signs point to: you're better off with less of this influence in your life right now.