Site News: New Rule. Please see inside for our new policy regarding gifts, wishlists, and contributions.
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This has seemed like a bit of a slippery item for a while, so it's probably time to go ahead and set some policy. It's been a fun and sweet thing for some members to occasionally exchange some gifts, but not everyone has the means or inclination to do this, and we don't want people to feel pressured about this sort of thing, even indirectly. Metachat members are exceedingly warm and softhearted, but we also want to head off any potential for abuse of this kindness. Such a thing has not happened yet, and we don't want it to. So here are the guidelines:
Wishlists: Please don't ask for items from your wishlist, or refer people to look at it (or the wishlist of someone else) in posts or comments. Also, if you'd like to thank someone for a gift, please don't do so in a post, and use your best judgement in comments. You can do any of that stuff on your site and wiki profile pages (and personal emails, of course), but try to refrain in posts and comments.
Gifts: It's okay to talk about shopping or things you're drooling over, but don't ask that something be bought for you, or suggest that gifts be purchased for someone else. And, again, please don't make posts thanking people for gifts they've given you. If you are wondering if a post like that breaks the guidelines, please email me about it.
Contributions: Please don't ask for contributions for yourself, another member, or other people on the internet (or real life, for that matter). If there is a special case that you feel deserves site attention, please email me about your suggestion, and we'll see if there's a way to work it out.
Charity Drives: Please don't ask members to donate to a charity you are involved with. Again, you can put this information on your profile pages, and if you feel there is a special significance to site members, please email me to discuss it.
Sorry if any of this is disappointing, but you'll have to trust that we've thought it through and are doing this in the best interest of everybody over the long term. The wishlists will remain on the Wiki (which you can always easily reach from the left sidebar), and people who are interested can always check there. The main objective of this policy for the site is to head off potential scams and abuse, and to try to keep anyone from feeling excluded or pressured.